i went to madras for higher studies i met this guy our friendshipp gradually turned ot lovei love him and i am a malyalee christain our i his parents have accepted me and i have stayed in his house also with his parents but after i told my love to my parents my parents brought me back to dubai last year and now i am working here butthe comapny which i work all knows my dad and my boss lives next door so cant take emergency leave and go 2 my guy foir getting married tell me a way to get married to hime
i love my parents also i try t talk to my dad and mom twicw they said it is not possibel pls help me give me a solution which is practical
i am always depressed and sad herein dubai i have no one to talk to .. pls someone give me advice.. my guy has bought a flat for me and is waiting for me he always asks me when i will come to him i always say will come asap. and also my parets are wooried abt my bro studies as he is backward in studies and his exams are in may i am scared to open
2007-02-28 01:12:51 · 11 answers · asked by ARUNANET 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TAKE THE HELP OF LAW. GO FOR COURT MARRIAGE.
2007-03-04 00:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been learning about Hinduism in one of my classes and I think that as accepting to other religions as Hinduism is, your parents could stand to learn something from this. I know the Bible speaks against being "unequally yolked," meaning having a partner who is of different beliefs. However, I have seen relationships florish because each person was accepting of the other.
You've come to a major crossroad in life that can't be avoided. Either you follow your heart and marry the man you love, or you choose your family over him. It's a difficult decision because I know you must love them all very dearly and it's got to be tearing you up inside. However, in the long-run, you have to decide what is best for you. Your parents will, hopefully, always love you and will eventually get over it. Your love interest, on the other hand, may or may not stick around while you try to decide. He obviously cares greatly about you, though.
I reccomend that you learn more about Hinduism and talk to your parents about it. Show them how there are simmilarities between the two, and how there are Christian-Hindus in the world (I never knew that until a few weeks ago!) who lead very happy lives. Usually the main source of conflict is a lack of understanding, so in this case, knowledge and understanding will hopefully help the situation.
Good luck in whatever path you choose. You have a rough path ahead of you, but hopefully you will choose the one that leads to a happy ending.
2007-02-28 09:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by serena_dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither Christianity nor Hinduism allows such marriage. Only option is Special Marriage Act 1954 wherein the religion is immaterial. Christianity is a religion. Hinduism is not a religion. It is a custom, culture, tradition and way of life. None can convert to Hinduism. A Hindu is born to Hindus in Hindustan (India) and practises Hinduism. A Christian may find it difficult to believe in 330 millions gods and goddesses instead of just 3 and a Hindu too vice versa. In such marriages, usually the wife is to adopt husband's culture, custom and tradition.
2007-02-28 10:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the religion that would come between you guys. It never did. It's the sick mentallity of people thinking that there are different sets of human races and each persaon belonging to a set must pertain to itrs own set.....
Nobody is muslim or a hindu because he/she is born in that family. He/she is hindu or a muslim or a christian because he/she is developed in that culture. RELIGION IS AN INDUCTION of FEW ETHICS INTO US. IT'S NOT OUR IDENTITY. It's something we need to follow to lead a stable, healthy and hygenic life, not to create discrimination. If you study the rituals of your religion carefully you will understand that it is technically oriented more towards mental and physical fitness of a person and not towards other religions.
I've seen a few inter-racial marraiges nad seen them get along well.... You two have already accepted each other inspite of the religious differences because there's a human being inside you who is out of the religious bounds. Come on set yourself free. What has religion got to do with love.
You have a lucky opportunity to blend tweo different great cultures. Go ahead.
You have to win trust of your parents. You gotta develop the kind of wisdom that your parents should rely on you for every decision you make. The main reason why parents don't considers their childrens choices for marriages is that they don't trust their kids capability of making decisions. They believe that your wisdom is limited to a definite scope. Prove that you can make no wrong decisions. Prove that you are the best judge for your family's welfare. I'm sure the would opt out the stupid caste/religion mentallity if they believe that your choice is the perfect one.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-01 11:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to take a bold decision. If you really love this guy then you will have to convince your parents or if they don't agree then both of you can go for a registered marriage. As both of you are adults, nobody can force you to marry against your wishes. In any case inter religion marriages are quite common these days. Once married, parents also come round and accept.
2007-02-28 09:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rahul 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation......there is no simple answer to your question.
Parents think that they are doing the best for you but, you shouldn't have regrets in your life and as consequence ruin someone Else's life (if you choose to marry someone else you don't love).
I'm also a 'mallu-christian' married to a Hindu guy here in US...trust me I know how parents can get!! My parents and relatives in India have come to a good understanding now about my choice.
All I can tell you is that you can't PLEASE everyone all the time and, you should follow your heart.....
2007-02-28 10:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by medicine_doc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only way I know how to answer you is thru the Bible What fellowship has light with darkness. Think of it this way . See a triangle with God at the top and you and him at the bottom in each corner as you get closer to God closer to God you get futher away from your Hindu Guy The closer he gets to his religion the further you get away from Him. Another thing your family will always be with you and love sometime fades. Make sure you are willing to give up your relationship to your family and your relationship to God.
2007-02-28 10:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by pat b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your hart. I was in the same situation. I had choose the love and i'm verry happy. But, do you really love this guy so much? The answer is deep in your hart.
2007-02-28 09:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by BRIANA 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't hurt your parents felling, all love marriages end with disaster , listen to your parents ,and do as they say ,because with out your parents you woudn't have come to his world.
they have faced all kind of hard ship to bring you up to this stage .hence think about it.
2007-02-28 09:37:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
u inf u r parents if they did not agree.go for court marriage.
2007-02-28 09:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by moin m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋