Sometimes I have a difficult time forgiving someone that's hurt me, but I know it's the right thing to do. Do you all find it easy to forgive? I'm just wondering, I figure most people would answer no, but I'm interested in your opinion.
2007-02-28 00:53:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you've probably hurt a lot of people without knowing it yourself. Give others a chance.
2007-02-28 00:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. But to answer the question it is best to forgive. I find if I don't forgive those who have hurt me, it's hard to move on and it feels as if anger just eats away at me. Just because you forgive someone it doesn't mean you have to like them or even hang out with them again. It just means you forgive them for what they did. For instance, if your significant other cheats on you and treats you badly, you should forgive them and move on in your life without them. I usually tell the person I forgive them, but that we can no longer be friends or whatever. Good luck!
2007-02-28 09:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by jbug742 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've found that in fact, it's easier to forgive someone than not to, and hears the reason why...
when you forgive someone, your not doing it for them, but more for yourself, so that you will have peace of mind, otherwise, the pain and hurt will linger. You'll find that the quicker you forgive, the better you will feel having let go of that pain, anger, frustration, etc..... Trust me on this, I do it daily. One more thing, the harder it is to forgive someone, the more you really need to do it, or it may have severe negative affects on your mind, heart and spirit.
2007-02-28 09:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by JMM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It is not easy to forgive mostly if a person hurt you most but i always try as much as possible to forgive.
2007-02-28 09:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sirah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do forgive easily. However, if I find that they are continuing to hurt me I cut all ties to the relationship. Even if it is family members. Because to forgive is one thing to forget is another
2007-02-28 08:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well actually, for me it depends on the situation.I tend to pick my battles.The small stuff like white lies, insensitive comments,those
things aren't even worth wasting energy on.I ask myself if I am any less guilty of the same behavior...? That makes it easier for me to forgive. The real test is when my answer is no....Thats when it gets hard.
Whatever the Battle is, it is always within ourselves. Forgivesness for me, releases me, from being responsible for others behavior.And it is hard, when we tend to expect others to live up to our personal morlas and values.So depending on weather or not, a person is delibertly useing my " benifit of the doubt", for thier self gain , is the conflict. I choose to allow myself to stuggle with forgiveness, reguardless of anothers intent. No matter how spiritual one might be, we all fight this internal Battle, but we are equipped to handle it, and overcome it. I think as we learn how to overcome thie small stuff, we are better prepared to deal with the big stuff.That is the process of maturing, the process of learning uncondtional Love,The process of becomeing the teacher,and Elder,and the gateway to respect.
2007-02-28 09:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by iwild 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People mess up. It's totally natural. Many people realize that they have messed up and are really sorry and have actually learned from their mistake. Those people deserve a second (or 3rd) chance.
There are also people who mess up and don't care but act like they're sorry just to be friends with you. They might deserve a second chance but not a third (or 4th).
my advice is: You need to determin if this person really deserves your forgiveness or if they should be shoved out of your life.
2007-02-28 09:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get angry first and let the person know it, but I do cool down and then usually forgive, Its not easy to forgive. Its very hard.
2007-02-28 08:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by mlock123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No , I don't find it easy to forgive..... that's probably one of my bad points. Here is what I think about it, if you do me wrong then don't expect us to be friends afterwards.
2007-02-28 08:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends what they have done.
i have found it hard to forgive people before but other times i couldn't even be mad at them.
but when someone has hurt me it does take alot for me to forgive them.
2007-02-28 08:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by <3...Carla...<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do not forgive i try and i try but then i end up getting mad again if its a little thing then yes i'll forgive but something huge i don't i want to but i'm to full of resentment.
2007-02-28 09:03:53 · answer #11 · answered by Babycakes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋