2007-02-28 00:28:30 · 31 answers · asked by shana g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How old are you? Well no matter if you continue to take his abusive language, then it is just going to get worse until it gets physical. because the more he does it and you stay with him sends him the message that you are weak enough to stay with him.
This being said...I think you can probably figure out what I am going to say next.....get smart and leave, before he beats you to a pulp....And don't give the BS of we love each other.....nope, because if he loved you he would not be talking to you that way....and you cannot love him because you have to love yourself first before you can love any one else.....and you don't love yourself because you allow him to verbally abuse you.....and in case you did not know this is a way to control you. So get out....find all the things that you like about yourself, and say them to yourself over and over.....you deserve better than what you are going through.
2007-02-28 00:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot fix it! He has emotional problems and you should get away from him. He will start the way that you describe and build up to physical violence.
He needs to get into many years of therapy, but 99% of abusers do not believe that they have a problem and are not interested in therapy.
I can say this having been abused emotionally as a child and married to a woman who lived with a man that started out just as you are describing. She became so frightened of him that it took her 19 years to get away. She ran for her life after getting two black eyes and she now has Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Do not say that he is not like that and this will not happen to you. All abusers are textbook cases. No one knows why, but they all are.
Take care,
Troy
2007-02-28 10:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like im wondering are you even serious,you answered your own question,what do you think the answer is to that,I know it's always easy from the outside looking in to tell people what to do with their problems,so I know you prob can give a friend advice but when it come to yourself your lost,I need you to write down the goods and the bads about this man if the bad out ways the good then you know he has to go and any type of abuse outways all good,cause the only thing that could follow after that is I'm sorry.so is it good for him to abuse and then say sorry you know the answer.
2007-02-28 08:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by please can i have a best answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to tell you but that type of person will never change, you can not fix that. The best thing to do is to part ways and go your own way, if you want a better relationship then you will find it, without the abuse. Your true soulmate is out there. No women needs to put up with any of that.
2007-02-28 08:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by chasier1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no 'fixing' this situation. He will change when he is ready to. But for now...you need to tell someone other than yahoo answers. Tell your friends, tell your family, tell your co-workers and dump him. If he abuses you you need to report that to the police and at least start a record/file against him. Since I don't know what state you live in (or if you even live in the United States) you can start with the website below. They should be able to give you more advice and help than what yahoo answers can provide.
2007-02-28 08:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant fix it. A guy who is a "little controlling and verbally abusive" becomes a man who hurts you and controls every move you make. Please do not think about marriage with this guy he will hurt you. Look at it this way all you are doing is dating and he already calling you names and controlling you imagine if you were married!!
2007-02-28 08:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by Amberlyn4 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
none if us knows what behavior is being referred to as "controlling and a little verbally abusive", so we're really not in a position to judge clearly.
did he call her a b***h and tell her to stop, after she stabbed him with a fork? no way for us to know..
It would be better to talk to someone in person who can understand the situation in depth like a counsellor, before making a final decision.
2007-03-01 01:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by netizen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You end your relationship with him.
2. Get professional help to figure out why you would involve yourself with someone who doesn't respect you or have your best interests at heart.
3. Don't kid yourself into thinking that you're not the kind of woman who would tolerate abuse.
4. If these steps fail, repeat step 2 until you get it.
2007-02-28 09:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are........but. He's 23! Still growing and learning. Your now one of his life's lessons, make sure he learns well. He needs to know his actions are wrong and there are ramifications for his deeds. If he doesn't seem to comprehend the situation, life lesson #1...........loss.
Now to your situation.........fix it? You need to find a person who doesn't need fixing. Maybe someone your own age, who has a few more "life experiences". I'm assuming your older by how your question was phrased, if not, I apologize.
Please (fix) spay or neuter your pet..........not your mate.
2007-02-28 08:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Ron J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot fix someone. Either you learn to adjust to this man's behavior or you walk away. A controlling, abusive man is usually an insecure person who will never change.
I suggest you walk away and NEVER look back. Unless you like being a doormat,.
2007-02-28 08:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋