What can I do to make my marriage better, less fighting?

Answer 1

1. learn how to communicate with each other with out having to lose your cool..

2. you both need to learn how to compromise instead of being so hung up on who is right and who is wrong, and getting ur own way, u need to learn to face a problem and compromise so that both win, and no one loses..

Answer 2

Marriage is a partnership and therefore needs to have both parties working together to make it work. For your part you can try to do thoughtful acts of kindness for your husband without being asked. Don't let little unimportant things create arguements. Be willing to give some when the two of you have different opinions on how to do things. Pick your battles and then try to discuss with a calm voice and try to see the other side of the issue.

Don't ever stop dating him. Always take the time to go out alone together weekly. Don't get in a rut on these date and just go to the movies and dinner, every now and then plan a special date where the two of you dress up to go out. Maybe even make it an over night date where the two of you check in a hotel and spend a night without the kids, if you have any.

By all means do not let yourself turn into a frumpy old wife. Put makeup on so that when your husband comes home you look your best. Don't wear ungly house dresses unless your painting the house or doing major house work. Occasionaly let him come home to find you in a sexy little number such as a teddy or a babydoll outfit with all the lights out and candles burning. Make him feel like the lucky man that he is to have you. Don't be afraid to tell him that you love him.

Hopefully your husband will also do his part by sending you flowers every now and then for no reason and planning trips and activities that only the two of you share.

Answer 3

Fighting is a symptom of something bigger. Marriage takes lots of work and patience. There is a give and take that everyone seems to pay lip service to. Yet we often dont put the honest effort forth. If you have been married for a really long time it may be time to rekindle some of the spice from yesteryear. If someone is being inconsiderate then maybe its time for some therapy sessions. I think it should all start with a sit down talk to get to the root of what seems to be the problem. Remember both parties have to see that a problem exists and have a true desire to make things better. Otherwise things cant get better. Setting some guidelines for productive discussion and adhering to those guidelines may eliminate the fighting even it its just in the short term.

Answer 4

For starters, make a rule that whenever you have a problem, no cussing. Ya kinda have to choose your battles as well. Don't jump on each other about EVERYTHING, let some things slide. Always be aware of how you are treating each other. If you are nicer to someone on the street than you are to each other, you may want to do some self-reflection. Ya just got to remember that the two of you hooked up in the first place for enjoyment. When you start making demands from each other or trying to change too much, it is no longer about enjoyment, but conformity. There is a fine line between compromise and changing who you are. There will be fights though, my mother always says that if both of you in the relationship agree on everything, one of you isn't necessary.

Answer 5

The best thing to do is to find a compromise, I have found that when i married my bestfriend, and soulmate, that i had less fighting, because we enjoy making each other laugh, and we enjoy doing everything together. Maybe the two of you need to take a trip together, get away from the day to day stress of life, and just enjoy each other, i know that works for my husband and i when things start getting tough for us.

Answer 6

Hey, I'm sorry to hear this. I think one way to help stop the fighting is being careful what you say to the other person. If he says something that really upsets you then it's best to try to ignore it, at least for the time being, until you're both calm, and then you can address it.

Another thing I would strongly recommend is counseling. There are good counselors out there, I'm sure. They can teach you both techniques to learn how to talk to each other and really listen to one another.

See a pastor if money for counseling is a problem. Read your bible together, go to church together. That old cliche that they say is often true "The family that prays together, Stays together." Amen and Amen.

You'll be in my prayers.

Answer 7

What are you fighting about. Get to the root of that problem. The best thing to do is communicate. Everyone fights if they tell you they don't they are full of poop. Try to be nicer to each other be more considerate of each others feelings and things should calm down if not I suggest therapy before you both hate each other.

Answer 8

Communication:
Try not to raise your voice in arguements just because your loud does not mean your being heard.
Don't call names that is degrading and scars the person.
Don't blame .......explain what your feeling and how it makes you feel.
Focus on the issue at hand do not bring up old stuff.
Understand that you will not always agree on everything sometimes you have to bend a little.
Show affection and admiration at least 3 times a day.
Never go to bed mad.

Answer 9

Both you and your spouse need to learn better communication skills. I suggest if you want to make your marriage work and you both realize you need to put forth the effort to make it work, then seek a marriage therapist.

Answer 10

Thy a marriage counselor. and talk to each other, and not at each other. And say, lets try and make this marriage work, Say I love you, and lets try and discuss things, and rationalize issue, before we start to fight.

Answer 11

Pick your battles. Talk about anything and talk everyday. Keep the communication lines open and that way you won't be building up for a fight. My lover and I rarely ever fight and when we do it's often just to amuse ourselves in our own sardonic way.