I have been married for 13 years. I started getting suspicion that my wife is cheating on me some four years ago. She is very smart on her tricks. One day I found SMS on her phone from a guy promising each other that they will be ******* everyday once he moves into our neighborhoods. When I asked her, she said it was wrong number, she did not know the guy or the person. She phoned the guy and shouted at him, I was not convince with this gimmick. She switched off her phone as we had bitter argument and she accused me that I did not want her to have a cell phone. We discussed the matter the following day where we resolved that the phone was not a problem but her infidelity which she persistently denies. Immediately we switched on her phone there come messages from the same number. Does she know this guy? How can i question her so that she tells me the truth?
Is divorce on this ground justifiable?
I know she does not want to lose me but she messes around.
2007-02-28 00:20:41 · 6 answers · asked by Nuel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say yes you should be worried but I dont think she will telll the truth.If it were me I would have a PI follow her around and get the proof you need.It may cost a little but you will have what you need for a divorce and that is what you should get if she has been doing this for 4 years with no regaurd to your feelings.
2007-02-28 00:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by stegall_sherry 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes divorce on this ground is justifiable and legal for sure. Why would she tell you the truth. I suggest you take her on the Maury show and have her take a polygraph test and find out that way if at all possible. Have you both been to marriage counseling for help in this matter yet? I also recommend that you go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help and advice in this matter. It seems to me like she is hiding something and i like you would wonder why. I think she may know this guy pretty well since his number shows up that much. You could also write down the phone number you see and call the guy yourself and ask him about all of this if she herself will not tell you anything. Go straight to the source and you may be surprised what you find out. This should settle the mystery somewhat.
2007-02-28 01:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for u to be able to work on the problem she has to be honest about it and be accountable. she is lying to u to protect her marriage, because she really doesn't want to find herself divorced. personally i could forgive someone if they admitted it and showed some remorse, but if not i would have to end it to protect my own self worth and ego. there is nothing u can do to get her to be truthful, as she may feel telling the truth will reveal some things she doesn't want u to know about her. as it is sometimes hard for people to even admit they did this terrible of a thing. she is avoiding it, as she fears her marriage will be ended.
2007-02-28 00:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is definetely something to worry about. She is lying to you and is getting caught and still denying it. Infidelity is definetely grounds for divorce.
2007-02-28 00:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him yourself. Take her phone and get the number off it and call him. If she does not want you to do this she is cheating!
2007-02-28 00:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I GUESS THAT WOULD DEPEND ON WHAT YOU WANT TO DO. YES, SHE'S OBVIOUSLY BOINKING THE GUY. HOW ELSE WOULD HE GET HER NEW PHONE #? DUH!!!
YOU CAN QUESTION HER WITH A THOUSAND QUESTIONS, IF SHE DOESN'T WANT TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH, SHE NEVER WILL.
2007-02-28 05:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋