He doesn't help out with the kids, doesnt support you financially and emotionally. He is never home always crusing and comes home real late. Its like I don't want to deal with it no more
2007-02-28 00:17:26 · 24 answers · asked by lavern 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Explain to him how you really feel . Tell him there are changes that need to be made before you leave him . Tell him you are willing to stay around if he chooses to change but if not you must move on . Let him know you tried to deal with this but your not happy . If you already told him this and he is still doing the same thing , get a I'm sorry card and write what you want and tell him your moving on . GOOD LUCK !!! Tell him you want to feel appreciated and loved and he isn't showing you that .
2007-02-28 00:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be not 100% but i can relate to what you have asked out here. An answer to this like a Divorce or just move out may sound easy to say, but difficult to do.
I am sure you must have dealt with this in the most positive way and tried your best to make things happen. Any sane woman would definitely like to keep a marriage for herself and her family. My only suggestion would be (if you are thinking otherwise - as in to break from this) "when you want to leave, list out the number of reasons why you stayed" You will find an answer within thin question and it will give you rationale to decide. And my advice dont ask anyone for suggestions coz everybody handles their problems in a unique way. and for all you know you might land up being an example on how "not to lead your life". Jus be careful, take your time, dont ask for help as in physical help from anyone, pull yourself up (slowly). Its not over until it comes to an end and if it doesnt end its not over. Cheer up!!!! Happiness is within you.
Once you decide all the best things in life will automatically fall in place :)
2007-02-28 08:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by anjalee79059 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's acting like a teenager, and I'm sure that taking care of an additional child is not what you want. Have you talked to him about changing some things? Of course, if you're totally fed up and are sure that you don't want to work things out I would get a separation. He doesn't seem to be a contributing partner in the relationship. Move on and make yourself happy.
2007-02-28 08:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by sweet thang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats when u pack his things, set them on the front step and leave a note that states "untill ur ready to prove that u want to be a father and a husband..that 'I' need you to be, u mine as well go live your single life somewhere else because im trying to raise a family here and have no time to raise u as well" ... if he loves u and his family then he will panic and try to change.. if he could care less u know where u and ur kids stand with him, and theres no sense in holding on to someone that doesnt want to be there..and is only using u .. as a maid, cook, babysitter, laundry mat..etc..
2007-02-28 08:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd approach him and give him an ultimatum. Either he wants a life with you and the kids and is willing to be a husband and father. Or he wants a single life. But he can't have both. If he persists in wanting a single life away from his home - give it to him. And get a good lawyer and get everything you can from the b#$@@rd.
2007-02-28 10:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried marriage counseling? I know it cost a little bit of money, but is it worth it to you to fix your marriage? If he is acting like you and the kids are on the bottom of his priorities list, then try separating for a month. Maybe you both need the breathing room.
2007-02-28 08:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Karma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, been there, done that, designed the T-shirt
If you know it is beyond the point of no return - than you know there is nothing left to do but move on and get rid of the waste (meaning the husband)
Woman are stronger and you will be able to keep your head up, move on, be a great single mother etc etc.
2007-02-28 08:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by Juanita L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need counseling. This is bad. I am guessing you tried talking about it and it has gone no where. Ask him up front if he still wants to be married. Ask him if he even wants to try and work things out. Once you get some of these questions answered you will know what direction to move.
2007-02-28 08:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer and get a divorce.
depending on where you live, you may not be legally allowed to simply set his stuff out and change the locks.
in MY area, you have to go and file an eviction notice with the sheriff, and it has to be served, even if you are married and you own your own home.
my advice is to file for divorce or seperation, and make sure that he is served with those papers, along with a request that he leaves the property.
2007-02-28 09:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is abuse....start going to church..it really builds you to be Strong
I know you love him honey...but..he is not showing love or respect to you.....when we are involved in a group of people that will support you...you will be amazed...there really is strenght in numbers.
You need to go to DHS for help right now you need it.
fill a paper at the courthouse for him to leave your house.
Because he is upsetting your baby's...believe me...they will back you.
Tell them you also need a police officer to patrol your area...every night...they will...get the authority's on your side.
Because he sounds like a BULLY.
If you are ready to divorce him or separate from him......get your locks changed....call a locksmith....$25. or have them re key your
locks...it's even cheaper
.Clean out the bank account to....don't be afraid...he is the wrong one...not you.
Good luck honey...I am sorry.
2007-02-28 08:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋