i dont no how to tell my fiance or how ill cope! i.m so scared! i just started my new job as a teacher and i dont no what to do. can someone please give me advise?
2007-02-28 00:09:28 · 21 answers · asked by soon to be mum kelli 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Congratulations!! This is an exciting time for you! It's normal to be a little nervous the first time around....I found out that I was pregnant about a week before our wedding....I handed my fiancee (now hubby) a pair of baby booties and told him soon we would have feet small enough to fit in them .....Find a creative little way to tell him...and keep a positive spin on it from the start, that will help him to stay positive as well! You don't have to let your work know right away. Becoming a mom is wonderful! Good Luck.
2007-02-28 00:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
tell him calmly. When he gets home from work sit and have a cuppa. Tell him you went to the doctor because you were not feeling well. You thought your period might have been late also but you were not sure. Then tell him. I had a pregnancy test. It was positive and we need to talk about this.
The best case senario would be he was happy and you decided a baby would enhance your life not hold you back.
If he is not happy about it you should both talk calmly about your options. I have 6 children. I have worked part time with all of them after they were 1 year old. I did have family (grandparents) who i paid to look after them while i was working.
I found i have a better life with my children because i know they have made me a better person. I wish you the best. Honesty is the only way. Do it soon so he knows he can trust you.
But do it in a relaxed way. Talk and hey... he is your fiance and he did half the work
2007-02-28 00:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by mummy to 6 ... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a good job and will be able to financially support this child. Teachers have great benefits, insurance and wonderful time off...summers, spring break, etc. Consider yourself lucky that you'll get to spend so much time with your new baby and husband without a lot of stress! You may not have wanted kids right now, but they are a blessing in disguise! You WILL adjust and it is normal to be scared and feel overwhelmed. Lean on friends and family during this time and enjoy it. My baby was planned and I freaked out so it is VERY normal. Your fiance loves you...he asked you to marry him...so you will get through this together! It's all part of marriage and growing together as a family.
2007-02-28 00:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by heathjs21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey I'm 10 weeks pregnant too! Congradulations! It is a wonderful thing, and although you see it happening to everyone youd never thought it would be you this time. Honestly you have two options for yourself... (because caring this baby and giving birth is happening whether you like it or not) either worry yourself to death and cry and wonder whats going to happen OR just embrace it... nomatter how scared you are just embrace it, it will really make you feel strong and worthy to say that you are bearing a child and couldnt be happier to bring it ito this world.
As for your fiance, I had to do the same thing. (make sure you have a pregnancy test, it is easier for them to actually see it infront of them) and just get it over with. My advice to you is to be strong, dont go to him with a quiet voice on the verge of crying. Have a smile on you face and baby him, tell him things are fine, this is a great thing. Be strong for him and he'll see that it is ok. You'd be surprised how much they go off of what you feel like. (oh yea, and give him his space but keep acting cheery and normal)
2007-02-28 00:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your fiance, he has a right to know. You can then discuss your options together. Sharing the news with someone will feel like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders. You should do it quickly 10wks is a quarter of the way there already, dont put it off!
2007-02-28 00:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by shez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely i do imagine it really is a fantastically lengthy time period. i dont imagine you wait if you're positive you're pregnant. pass to any ob/gyn health facility tell them you would pick to take the try and optimistically they'd see you a touch earlier than that. you mustn't wait. the present they could agenda an appointment to make sure a wide-spread practitioner after a favorable try is likely per week or 2. I absolutely have a 21 month previous boy and that i'm 4 months pregnant it took me about i week for the final practitioner to make sure me after the try. take care and strong success.
2016-12-05 01:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by abigail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard telling the man that you are pregnant. But just chose the right time and pray that he is a MAN and not a boy pray for guidance I am somewhat in the same situation and I am afraid of the results so just give it to him straight girl, but I am sure he will be supportive:)
2007-02-28 00:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit him down and straight out tell him, this is as much his business as it is yours. Then when the hard bit is over you can discuss what you are going to do.
Try not to worry to much you will cope because this is what you were made to do. And you may just surprise yourself and be great at it.
2007-02-28 00:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP.. he helped you get pregnant, so deal with it. You should of be more cautious if you didn't want to get pregnant. If you don't want this child, then give it up for adoption, let some other childless family love a child.
As for telling your fiance....why be scared, if you cheated then well start packing, if its his then why be scared?? He obviously helped. GET A LIFE, STOP CRYING, YOUR PREGNANT, BIG DEAL. At least you can have children.
2007-02-28 00:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him you went to the Dr. Tell him that you went because you were late/thought you were pregnant. He should then ask what the result was and you can tell him. Just don't bawl your eyes out like I did when I told my boyfriend...... and you don't have to get married just because you're pregnant, that's tacky.
2007-02-28 04:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by Rosie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋