I am a WAHM with a baby but I feel bad when I see moms attack each other, and I am very confused about it. My mom was a SAHM and housewife her whole life and believe me she was not alone, a lot of women managed the house and kids and were not put down as lazy. She had a lot to do in the home, cooking cleaning, ironing, and on and on. Why is it wrong, or considered lazy for a woman to be a homemaker or domestic manager today, if the family can live nicely on one income. It does not make sense. Could someone enlighten me why working women and a lot of ppl have this view today?. Are all women supposed to work outside and inside the home?
2007-02-27 23:53:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree with you and I too am a SAHM of three kids ages 9-4. I think moms who work outside of the home are envious because they think all we do is sit on our butts all day and watch soaps. Ironically, they sit in their office chairs, munching on donuts and chat on line while we are generally so busy with our children or running errands, or doing housework. We are deprived of social interaction, sanity (no time alone) and the demand of an endless job. When they come home from work, their house is clean because kids haven't been there to mess it up. They are emotionally filled inside because they got to interact with others, were relieved of the demands of caring for others all day and also had time to do things alone while we can't even use the bathroom alone. I love staying home with my kids but it is a job that is completely underestimated with lots of sacrifices.
2007-02-28 01:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
To answer your last question; no. However, people these days are focused towards change. The woman is no longer the only one that is considered to have to take care of the kids and cook and clean for when her husband gets back home.
These days, most women find it offensive to have this expected of them (this is usually if they do not have children, because if they did, then I am sure that they too would want to stay home with them). Today the working woman is just as ordinary as the working man.
Many people now see the perfect mom as the one that can work outside of the house AND manage the perfect household, because the reality is, the responsibilities of the home always rest on Mommy's shoulders. Somewhere along that road, the mother feels like she has to give up one thing or another; office work, or the company of her kids- two things which you have compromised in a way that would not deprive you of either.
You say that you work at home? Well, then you are managing to not only be present in your child(ren)'s life(lives), but you are bringing home the bacon without ever stepping outside the comfort of your home.
And why should you? Some people say that there is no competition if you aren't working at the office amongst coworkers, but there should be no serious competition if they have secured their jobs through a job well done.
If you and your family are comfortable, then don't let this bother you for much longer. If you hear someone you know talking about WAHMs in a negative way, then go right up to them and ask why it makes a difference if you are the one to be at home and not them.
2007-02-28 00:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the only people that put SAHM or WAHM down are people that are jealous. I can see no other reason. The purpose of the sexual revolution was to give women the CHOICE to either enter the workforce or stay at home. So now women have that choice.
Many women today are in fact working, but that is because of the rising cost of living, they are more educated and have more opportunity to be more successful. Also I think that maintaining a house has gotten easier, but not much. With the advent of the microwave and instant dinners, the Swiffer, self cleaning ovens, antibacterial cleaning wipes, washing machines and dryers....it isn't as back breaking work to clean and maintain the house as it once used to be. Perhaps now it may seem like anyone can maintain the house, and women don't need to stay at home.
2007-02-28 00:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are jealous because of the freedom they're giving up . They feel they have to do something they don't even like doing in the first place.Plus I'm not lazy ask any person to do my job and they'll quit after a day.It's not 1950 out there now . I can't sit on the phone all day and talk to my friends(they all work outside the home).My mind is numb at the end of the day, and I just want someone to talk to,but I wouldn't change it for the world.
2007-02-28 00:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
When it became necessary for a second income in order to make ends meet, the women stepped up into the workplace, now if you do not work you are considered less of a person. People should take a step back and look at the effects of a two working parent household, particularly on the children.
2007-02-28 00:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by Kathleen F 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no it is a matter of opinion, it is what works for an ndovidual i think Sahm do just as much as other mums
2007-02-28 00:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋