Any one here in a relationship with an age gap?

Question

Did it cause problems with family and people being judgementeal?

Answer 1

My partner is 13 years older than me, and it doesn't cause any problems now as we get on so well and fit together.

We've never been able to socialise with my friends as they were all far too immature - to be honest I didn't want much to do with them. It was a lot easier when I left school and could live in the 'grown up' world, which I fitted in to much better! I got a lot of grief when I was at school/college as they all thought that the relationship was wrong, but they didn't know us well enough to see that it worked and was equally balanced and healthy.

Our mutual friends are all around his age, but we get on fine.

At the beginning we did have a few problems with his parents thinking that I was just after his money, and my parents thinking that he was a predator, but we stuck it out and everyone gets on wonderfully now.

Its funny, we don't tend to think about the age gap, it just doesn't factor in any more. Its only when some retro thing from the 70's comes on and he asks if I remember it, and I tell him that I wasn't born then that we remember! We share all the same interests, the only thing we don't agree on is music - but that isn't an age thing!

Answer 2

I've been in two relationships in my life with big age gaps. The first was when I was 17, he was 37. It did cause some problems. We couldn't find friends in common and after 7 years I outgrew him and left. Not to say that would happen to everyone, but it was not the best match and people would make comments to me every once in a while asking why I didn't marry someone younger. It bothered me and it felt awkward, so, yes people were judgmental towards that relationship at times.

Now, I am 35 and married to a 23 yo for over 3 years. This one is much better, partly because I've grown up (teehee) but he's also a good listener and communicator. In the beginning his mother didn't like the 12 1/2 year age difference which was understandable, but he stuck by me anyway and we are very happy. I think you just have to work out whats best for you and your partner.

Answer 3

i dont know if this is considered a big age gap to others but it is for my mom iam 32 and my husband is 44. we are married and
no it did not cause problems with our families. my husband and i have a good realationship so far . i would say that it depends on the persons and not the numbers. now in some cases for example i type marraige and divorce information into the computer at work. and i have seen where a 20 year old was
married to a 70 year old. i also seen where a 18 year old was
married to a 80 year old now i think that is kind of sick
what dose a 18 or 20 year old man or woman want with a 70 or 80 year old.

Answer 4

My boyfriend is 20 years older than me (well 19 years and 8 months). I was 20 and he was 40 when we met. It caused problems at first because he was married (naughty I know) but the age gap itself has never been an issue or a problem for me or him. People do often look at us, but maybe that's cos I am 5' 3" and he is 6' 2" - does it bother me? Not at all. If flatters me that people take the time to look and stare. We have been together 6 years almost and hopefully we will be getting married soon. My friends like him, my family likes him.I could not be happier.

Answer 5

There is a 12.5 year age difference between me and my husband. There has been no problem with us....the only time things get weird or sound strange is when he like say in his 40's and I am still in my upper 20's....all ppl see is the 2 and the 4 and automatically think 20 years age difference. So once I finally reached my 30's things were fine again because be went from a 20 year difference to a 10. anyway, My husband is great and I would not trade him for nothing any younger.

Answer 6

Well, the biggest age gap that has ever been involved in my relationships was two years. I always was made fun of because of the age difference. But I never understood why people would care about only 2 years difference. Seriously, it's only two years.
In your case, I don't know how big the age gap is, but i'm sure that if you tell your family/friends or whoever may give you a hard time about it how you feel about this person, they should understand.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

I suppose it depends on the age gap! I mean a girl of 16 with a guy of 46 is rather worrying. I am in a relationship where my boyfriend is 14.1/2 years older. No one said anything but i started dating him when i was 32, if i had been in my late teens maybe i would have heard negativities.
The only diff i would say with older men is that they can be quite controlling......diff era i think and they seem to be a bit more insecure!
I would listen to the views given but i am sure you will do what you want anyhow....... and you will strive or fall by your own misakes.
Hope everything works out for you.

Answer 8

HUGE one for me...I'm 47 and he's 28. It hasn't caused ANY problems with family or friends. Actually it is helpful for me with being the same age as his parents, LOL! People guess my age A LOT younger, and him older...so as far as people being judgemental there has been no problem. But I don't take into consideration what others think. It's my life, not their's! ONLY you and your partner are sharing a life together,,,what other's think is NOT IMPORTANT! A relationship is based on love, trust, and enjoying each other's company....NOT WHAT OTHER'S THINK. So, don't think twice about other's opinions, it's your life not theirs. Besides, someone will ALWAYS have an opinion about something regarding another...and it's not important to your life choices!!! ENJOY LIFE & BEST WISHES!!!!!

Answer 9

I am in a relationship with a guy, 3 years younger than me...
My mum has a problem with his age, because she thinks that if I will get married to him, then what the other people will say for this age gap.....
Please... come on.. who cares... I don't care and he doesn't care... so where is the problem?
I hope she will stop moaning, because nobody knows if we will get married or not. And if yes, he is a wonderful person that others, older than me, couldn't give me what he can :)

thank you :)

Answer 10

A friend of mine is 10 yrs older than her partner and have been together 13 years.We go out with a large group of friends and to my knowledge it,s never been mentioned,we all know she,s older but it doesnt make any difference to us.Maybe a huge age difference would attract some funny looks, like being 20 and youre partner is 63 but it shouldnt matter if youre happy to hell with what other people think.