we will have been married 4 years in march he quit his job the day after we got married . and still has not got one we dont live together and all he cares about is how two get his beer for the day and he does this everyday i have meet a new man and he is so wonderfull he knows im married and have kids he dose also but my husband cant accept my children he says they owe him since he dont work and always ask them for money but they dont give it to him which makes him mad then he talks bad to them for not doing it the kids dont care for him or for the way he does me they have meet the new one and like him
2007-02-27 23:22:05 · 17 answers · asked by minniemeee2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"hunny, it's over and I want a divorce!"
2007-02-28 00:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Newmomofone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just exactly how many times do you plan on being married?
First, you keep picking losers. That's *your* fault.
Second, you keep marrying them. Again, a *you* issue.
Then you let these guys knock you up? Over and over?
You will keep having problems in marriage because the problem is partly yours, and until you change who you are, that part of the problem will never get solved.
Here are a few hints:
[1] stop marrying unemployed alcoholics.
[2] stop marrying employed alcoholics.
[3] stop defining who you are and being desperate about "being married"
[4] tell yourself you are going to raise your however many children *on* *your* *own* and if 3 or 4 or 5 *years* later a man pops into your life, fine.
[5] stop carrying on with other men while you are married. something tells me the two of you haven't just played chess and discussed the collective works of Dickens together by firelight.
[6] he's probably got a drinking problem too, but we know at the very least he is a lying filthy cheater because he is seeing a married woman
[7] get control of your life by having fewer men and soap opera events happening all at once - you are a drama junkie and you can never get enough personal upheaval in your life.
[8] gow up and start thinking about your children not as heavy bags you are dragging from one man to the next ("they have met the new one & they like him" - like men are puppies or used cars), but the focus of your life. if you give to someone outside of selfish needy little you, your life will improve as a result.
[9] dump the husband, dump the boyfriend you are cheating with, dump all these losers you keep picking.
[10] stop settling for and being around and screwing the type of man you find yourself currently attracted to. they'll end up beating you and molesting your children. change your needs (need a stable "boring" working kind human with zero drama, not a boozing alkie who is a walking soap opera) in life and that will end up attracting a new level of guy.
dammit woman, you had better pull your head out of your a s s and do it quick.
but all that takes time and effort so i sincerely doubt you will attempt or complete it. i know you want 'the girls' to tell you how tough you've got it but you have created your own nightmare. slow down. get your act together.
2007-02-28 08:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, I agree, you must be tackful in how you drop the D-bomb(while protectin your $$$). So, neither you or the kids get hurt during this transision. Then, I also, agree with the sorry *** part of havin not worked in what four yrs. Geeezeee, I just don't get it, how can some guys be like this with their mate/spouse.
Good luck and keep the faith!!! It'll all work out down the road.
2007-02-28 07:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Don B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can file for divorce at your county courthouse. If the kids aren't his it should be relatively easy. Get your family or friends to provide support/security for you and the kids. Some people freak out when they get the D-bomb dropped on them. Sorry it didn't work out for you hon, but since you have someone else now it's all good.
2007-02-28 07:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by eee_aww 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
four years of not working? Here's what to do:
1.) Apply for ONE new Visa credit card in your name only. Once you have it, cancel all the other credit cards the day before you give him the boot.
2.) Remove all funds from bank accounts the day before you give him the boot.
3.) Arrange to stay with a relative a few weeks before.
4.) Leave his sorry *** a "good bye" note on a predetermined day. Yup , thats right...Just up and leave. Hell, mail him the note.
Sorry, good-for-nothing-no-working-lazy-deadbeat.
2007-02-28 07:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U shud have taken the divorce before initiating relationship with some one else.
2007-02-28 08:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are trying to juggle too many balls at the one time here, first things first, tell your husband, tell him its over and the reasons why, and sort out the inevitable from that, then that leaves you free to pursue your new life, yourself and your children are what matter here, be strong, it will get easier, good luck
2007-02-28 07:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not rocket science..."It's over, I want a divorce". That should get the point acrossed/
2007-02-28 07:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone at work. His wife asked if she could borrow his truck while he was at work. He did and when he got home all his stuff was packed neatly in it.
2007-02-28 07:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
husband its is over i want a divorce like you said don't bite your tongue if he is not ready to comply or reach an agreement with then bounce
2007-02-28 08:03:12 · answer #10 · answered by trueexposure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you made a very wise choice when you said you would be with him forever.
2007-03-03 06:25:16 · answer #11 · answered by joey k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋