Now, I know how you ladies feel... I started hanging out with this woman. We had sex, it su*ked! She just didn't do it for me. So, we became drinking buddies and would hang out sometimes. Occasionaly on Saturday afternoons she would pick me up and we'd go drinking and dancing and hang out at this Tiki bar on The Gulf here in Florida. So, that stopped for a few weeks in a row, because I bought a sailboat and I have been working on it... She keeps pressuring me to want more of my time and a relationship after I tell her 100 times. JUST FRIENDS! She calls me up Saturday night at 2:00 AM asking if she can come over for a booty call... I tell her NO, and she tells me to never call her again... Ladies, whats your take on this - Comments? Can go both ways ya know.
2007-02-27 23:11:52 · 9 answers · asked by dannywahlberg 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
kja63, I like what you said.. But, in this day and age, many men no longer look at a womans feminine side anymore. We have been taught for the last 20 years that woman are just as equal and just as capable of having casual sex as a man. Woman have taught us that they are strong and capable and less feminine.
2007-02-28 00:50:08 · update #1
Your fault, really. No offense, but it's true. It's not about women "going nutty" or anything. It's just that some of us don't like having sex outside the context of the relationship. It's possible that she slept with you in the first place because she thought it equaled a relationship, which is her problem, but... My guess is that she figured you sleeping with her meant that you wanted to be with her... And when she found out that wasn't true, she thought MORE sex would make you want her. Yeah, that's stupid of her, but it's typical.
Anyway, you shouldn't be completely insensitive about it, and remember that in the future. "Just friends" is fine, but for a lot of women, sex is an expression of love and commitment, and if you don't want that, you need to make that -explicitely- clear from the word "go," or we feel like we've been led on. It's not all about her being "psycho" or anything, but in reality, she probably has deeper feelings for you, and is really hurt more than anything. Don't be a jerk about it. If you don't want a relationship with her, that's okay, but you need to explain that to her in a nice and mature way, and understand that she's just hurt. And yeah, after that, it's probably best not to hang out, at least for a good while.
A lot of women do go truly psychotic -- but when we do, it's usually just defense, because our feelings have been hurt. Remember that.
2007-02-27 23:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants more than just friends from you....and she really has gotten hurt by you.....I'm not saying you did this intentionally to her.....the sex obviously didn't suck for her......but for some women sex equals the beginning of a relationship....and after you had sex.......while you told her you just wanted to be friends.....and she wonders if he doesn't like me why is he still hanging out with me........she could be just waiting for you to change your mind about her.....I'm not trying to excuse her behavior.....but I think you really need to lay off the friends thing......this woman isn't able to be friends with you........at least not right now......she wants more....and she's mis-reading the time you spend together as something different.........the best thing you can do is just leave her alone and enjoy your sailboat......
2007-02-28 09:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mum3grls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After all you have experienced together, an excuse to be just friends does not work. Stop call her and stop promising anything like a substitution for the relation you have had. No friends, no lovers, nothing! Good luck.
2007-02-28 09:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Aurora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you shouldn't have slept with her in the first place and got her hopes up. She probably saw you as more than a friend and thought this was going somewhere, after all friends aren't supposed to sleep together!
2007-02-28 09:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really just want to be friends..dont call her again. She wants more and it is cruel to keep encouraging her. I know you dont think you are..but you are just by hanging out with her. Let her move on.
2007-02-28 07:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THIS WILL BE SHORT AND SWEET, IT ISN'T YOUR FAULT SHE IS A NUT, MAYBE YOU COULD HAVE A FEMALE FRIEND OF YOUR TO SCARE HER OFF. I WOULD DO IT FOR YOU IF I KNEW YOU, BECAUSE THERE IS NEVER A GOOD REASON FOR A MAN TO BEAT UP ON A WOMAN JUST TO MAKE HER LEAVE YOU ALONE.
2007-03-03 00:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by watkinslacy@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For men, casual sex means just sex!
For women, casual sex means there's a chance he'll change his mind and really want me!
So hopefully you have now learned a valuable lesson in life.
2007-02-28 07:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
some broads get all nutty after they copulate, come on you know this :). that or you are just that damn good in bed and she wants to make ya a keeper.
if she can't get over the fact that you ain't diggin her the way she digs you....tell 'er to take a hike.
2007-02-28 07:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by Hooligan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem lies with her, I think: something is 'off kilter'. If she continues to harass you then you can get a restraining order.
2007-02-28 18:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋