I have had a particular best friend for about 10 years now. We get on great because we have same interests, both nice people etc - but there has always been a marked difference between us; popularity. It's like, she's my best friend, but she's everyone's best friend. I am easily as nice a person as she, but she is the one who everyone loves, always being asked to visit people... I know the same people too and they don't ask me to visit. I can't think of doing anything wrong... the only difference between us is she is outgoing and loud, I am shyer. Is this just going to be the story of my life or can I change? Should I change? Or am I worrying over nothing?
2007-02-27 22:43:28 · 6 answers · asked by Sultana Of Swing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been like that all my life ( I am 33 now) I was always the "shy" one. But you know what, in the end, I only have 2 people I call "friend" and they would take a bullet for me and I for them. (besides my husband and family) My sister was always "popular, outgoing, loud, at parties, etc. and she has "tons" of "friends" still at the age of 37. BUT she even admitted to me a while back that there is no one she can truly trust and count on outside of our family. All of her "friends" are what I call acquaintances. They are only there in the good times, and duck & run in the bad. Moral of the story....never change who you are, you are perfect just the way you are. Make "good friends" not many friends.
2007-02-27 23:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by Michele A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It probably is just because you are shy. I know how that feels! It's really hard to open up to people sometimes and they can just find it easier to talk to your friend. Don't worry too much though, you still have friends, you don't NEED to be everybody's friend and hang out with everyone. Just look at it like this, you can concentrate on having great relationships with a small group of people, rather than spreading yourself out over loads of people!
2007-02-27 22:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
never change
i am 37 and have always had an outgoing confident nature, but used to think that i must be every ones friend... was very important
i now realise that i don't like everyone, and not everyone likes me
but that's a good thing because the friends i have are good, and are friends for life... (hopefully lol)
and vica versa
2007-02-27 22:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by rachealuk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, don't worry...popularity is nothing. it is merely a status. what's most important is that you guys care about each other and support each other as real friends.
trust me, if you believe in yourself, you will find that there is no such thing as popularity. plus, being popular can ruin your nice personality. you can suddenly become conceited/vain, self centred, super high self awareness, feeling superior to others...so low key's pretty good...i like being the less popular...
if you change yourself...forcefully...you may find that you will become someone you don't really know...you will be a 'wannabe'...and you will lose yourself...
2007-03-03 10:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by ChristopheraX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably just she may be more outgoing and relate to people more. I am quiter than my friend and she always draws more attention, but I am happy with that to be honest
2007-02-27 22:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just because your shyer than her dont change its just they dont truely know you. you can visit me if ya want
2007-02-27 22:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by nightwallwriter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋