ok, so i dont know if this is ever happened to any homosexual guy. but i dont know why, i was in love with this guy for 3 years, and now i feel like he's straight. he hasn't had a girlfriend or anything and he never used to talk about women.. or anything.. now all of a sudden one day, he bought up the fact that he doesn't know how guys can love other guys and said it was unnatural and my heart just melted. during those 3 years, he'd call me everyday, we'd sit together in class all the time. he'd look at me and smile.. like a dozen times. now im seriously hating myself for misjudging people. i dont think ill ever get close to another guy.
2007-02-27 22:40:07 · 12 answers · asked by Ryan 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You don't say whether he knows that you are gay or not so it's difficult to give you any advice. It's possible he made the comment about guy-guy love being unnatural to see how you would react. There are several possibilities here...
1) He's straight and knows that you are gay and wants you to know that his feelings for you are just friendship. Or he is straight and wants to find out if you are too.
2) He isn't sure of his sexual orientation and he is not sure of yours either.
3) He's gay and is not sure of your sexual orientation or your feelings for him.
Don't throw away 3 years of friendship just because there may not be a chance for a sexual relationship. You should explore the situation...talk to him openly and honestly, but be careful if you are still in high school and don't want everyone in school to know that you are gay.
2007-02-27 23:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most people are heterosexual you know. Actually it is my opinion that you may be lucky to find hetero people that won't hate or make fun of you. This dude probably just got used to having you as a regular friend who had a tough time getting girls. This dude probably forgot half of the time that you were gay, he just looked at you as another friend. This guy really might just be shy about girls in general. This is a classic of why theres that joke about gays trying to convince hetero thats they're gay when they not. I don't know anything, I'm just thinking about one friend I had who was gay and I basically forgot he was, I don't talk to him anymore because I moved away, don't work where I used to, or whatever other reason friends "wear away". Personally I don't like how gays try to point out "that guy, he's gay..., that guys not gay" you know... I know that sounds ignorant to all you that are going to say now that I'm gay.... no
2007-02-27 23:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Next time don't wait three years to find out. Most homos ask the first day.
The other possibility is your friend is really gay, but is having trouble reconciling his feelings of guilt. The fact he had not a girlfriend for this time and finally brought it up to you speaks volumes. Maybe he was ready to be convinced.
2007-02-27 22:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't know you're gay does he, maybe you should've told him that you know how two guys can love each other because you're gay. Sometimes you need to educate people if they're willing to learn because they don't know how you feel, they see it but don't understand what you feel inside. And if you really want him you have to pursue him. You never know he could still be gay or bi but feel repulsed by the thought of being with another man. If you aren't going to tell him that you're gay then maybe you should get over this crush.
2007-02-27 23:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will find another guy - and you'll have learnt a valuable lesson about life and love.
Don't waste precious time assuming someone may love you. ASK!
2007-02-28 00:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry it happens to everyone.... its like you never get what you really want, and you get what you dont want... thats all about life, its pretty normal... it happened to me too,
i say that i will never love someone that the previous one...
but it depends on the people...
people are different.. from one extreme to another...
you cannot know who will meet...
everybody hides something interesting
2007-02-27 22:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by badboy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to find someone else who can care for you the way you care for him. It'll take time, but you'll be better for it
2007-02-28 02:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
irst lessons in the gay lifestyle no ma terr how hot they are(straights) leave them alone-- they aren't built too handle us hot hung gays in bed-- and Will end up dumping you if anything goes inn. its a bi terr lessons and we diont mess around straights around here. a valuable lessons- go with your own kind--
2007-02-28 01:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll be ok just keep trying and try to find out a little sooner what there sexuality is
2007-02-27 23:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by Dusty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeahhh honey you gotta be carefull my b/f turned out to be a psycho. your young sweety and you got your life ahead of you, take care.
2007-02-27 23:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by ♥lois c♥ ☺♥♥♥☺ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋