I don't know what it is about me, but this girl hasn't taken to me at all - not that she has to, but it's things like: one morning, I had a raging headache and I put on one less light in the office on, just to create a little dimness. This girl, came in, and straight away turned the lights on full. I asked her if she wouldn't mind me having the light a little dimmer, until my headache subsides, but she refused (the light wasn't near her desk anyway). Then, as I sit next to a drafty window and I asked her if she wouldn't mind my putting the heater on and asked if we could come to a compromise, but she said, "No, because, the heat will come over to me". She makes no effort to include me in any social activities and never makes communcation with me, even though I've tried. I see her staring at me at the corner of my eye when she's at the fax machine, like she's weighing me up or something. The thing is, how do you deal with someone like this? Shall I just ignore her now?
2007-02-27 22:24:43 · 9 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
She sounds like a miserable, selfish person. You have tried to compromise with her and she won't budge. You've done your part, so now I think you should just ignore her. Be polite as always, but don't bother talking to her unless it's to answer a question. Eventually, she will get tired of messing with you and move on to someone else. Go in, do your job and let her continue to be miserable.
2007-02-28 02:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why ignore her? If you are polite in your requests and she outright refuses, and it sounds as if she is doing it to spiteful, I would simply turn to her and ask...what is your problem? Have I done something to offend you? You have been nothing but rude to me and I want to know what your preconceived problem with me is. If that doesn't get an answer or a response (which you may not like) then simply get back up and turn the lights lower and instead of turning the heat up, get up and shut the window.
As of right now, from your description, you have no idea why she is being nasty, so either ask or get some cream to rub the foot prints off your back.
2007-02-28 17:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by SF Concerned 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think she needs to be told. Next time you want the lights off or something and she refuses, do it anyway. Its your office too. She needs to learn how to compromise. Don't ask her permission, just do it. If you ignore her it will get worse. She's testing you out to see how far she can go I think. It seems like she's threatened in some way and unsure of you. So stand up to her and don't let her get away with it. Next time she's looking at you at the fax machine, ask her if theres anything you can help her with! Remember though, still try to be pleasant with her. Keep things professional. Be nice, but firm. good luck.
2007-02-28 11:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it is in your working place I suggest you ask if you could have a quiet word with her at lunch time. Then calmly, put ac cross you questions i.e. have you done something to upset her/as you get the feeling she does not like you. Then if as you say you have not - she will perhaps air her opinions and she may try to change her ways towards you for the better. I suggest you tackle this issue head on in a calm way simply because it is in your work place - ignoring it may effect your work and then that would become an issue - you are both adults and she should mend the error of her ways. remember calmly though.
2007-02-28 16:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl seems to think you are her doormat. The first thing you need to do is change her mind. Get it in your head that she has no more authority than anyone else in the office and politely but firmly in no uncertain terms tell her that for the time being things are going to be your way for a change. Look her in the eye and don't back down. It will take a few times befor she understands, but it will sink in once her horns are raw from butting heads.
2007-02-28 21:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no!!
This girl is obviously a bully and needs to be put in her place!
Politley, yet matter of factly, ask her what her problem is!
I suggest you do this within earshot of others so as to add to her humiliation.
Carry yourself with poise and diginity and don't get drawn down to her level!
Make sure she understands that you are not a doormat and if she does have any problems in the future, to either deal with it responsibly through the proper channels or to shut up and put up!
Let her colleagues see her for the petulent, selfish, little bully she is!!!
Good luck!!
2007-02-28 12:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by thesrhlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
completely ignore her - she's only trying to annoy you and get a reaction from you. if you ignore her she'll soon get fed up and leave you alone. After all that's what bullies do!!
If it gets too much for you though report her - you don't need to suffer her bullying no matter how trivial it seems to you, and you're employer has a duty to respect your complaint.
2007-02-28 10:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go to work to do your job, it is not a social event... You don't have to get along with anyone at work..
2007-02-28 15:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by $ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ignore her, she sounds like an arrogant, selfish, psychotic b****
2007-02-28 08:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋