My wife tells me that all I care about is my father, mt brother and all in my family and do not show half the concern to my wife and children. What do I do?
2007-02-27 22:17:30 · 10 answers · asked by Vapt 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Boy this is really a great guestion. I see so much of this today as-my family verses your family. Your wife is now your first responsibllity ,then your children but if both of you could accept your extended family -what a great family you both could have! Learn to love them as you do your own and your life would be so much easier. I know that blood is thicher than water but just give it a try. Good luck !
2007-02-27 23:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by snowflake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is Charity starts at home. YOUR HOME! Not your parents! So try to love your OWN family the love you give to your parents and siblings is obviously missing in your own! It's a form of maturing that you need to go through, and as you get older you will realise that if your parents had done what you are doing to your family at this present time, you would have been upset too with your father!
2007-02-27 22:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is spoiled and jealous. You have many, many years of caring for your familiar group. This will ripen into caring in so many ways for your own, original family. It's not certain exactly how, for love is a crime of opportunity. She is going to blow out the flame of unity that can develop in nuclear families with her short sighted, cranky, ways, becoming a person who will dominate you, and children with her dislike of not only your family, but you, and anything you like, or love, all will become targets. Ask her if she'd like to start over with someone else, and you'll be happy to relieve her of the weight of those kids. Tell her she needs to go get herself a real a**hole for her man, so you can raise your kids in tranquility.
2007-02-27 22:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should focus more on your wife & kids,as they are your priority in life,correct?Prioritize your family members & give your time & efforts to those you want to share it with most..Concern for your Father & Brother is perfectly fine & admirable,but your wife & children deserve your undivided attention & love for the sake of their future & yours..
2007-02-27 23:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of your children and wife as they are your family!!!
You are responsible for them.
You may help your father and brother but your family are your kids and wife.
They always have to be to you at the first place!
2007-02-27 22:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by janko 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now your wife and your children are your new family. It does not mean that you have to forget your other relations, but they come first. Be gentle and give your wife attention. All will be well.
2007-02-27 22:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by remy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
set your priorities straight. first, you are a husband and a father and those are your first responsibilities. Second your parents and brothers and sisters. put this in mind that your own family comes first. conflict arise when you dont set your priorities straight.
2007-02-28 07:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
evaluate what u do. do u sacrifice more for your dad and brother than your wife and kids? including your time and presence? if she has a point maybe you can change some things if not, seek counseling with her.
2007-02-27 22:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by Not here 2 make friends 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur question is absolutely not clear and need some additional details to be clear.
wife is always so possessive.it is ur part to control and extract the things according to the situation.
good luck.
2007-02-27 22:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by sarayyu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she correct?
An honest answer to that question will go a long way toward deciding what you have to do.
The problem is only YOU can answer that question.
2007-02-28 09:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋