How do you pretend interest when dealing with BORING attention seekers?

Question

Have you ever met someone who is BORING and can't stop talking?

I mean if people are interesting, i might actually find it pretty easy to make myself interested in what they have to say, but what if they ARE NOT?!?! I used to smile back, but now i just go 'oh' and continue doing what i was doing.

The reason i'm asking this is that these guys are people i deal with on a daily basis, and i want to maintain a good relationship with them. But i am finding it hard to pretend interest in these BORING attention seekers. Teach me how to deal with them please. I don't want to hurt them by telling them they are boring, because these people are actually quite nice, i just can't take their constant blabber.

Answer 1

look,u need 2 accept a friend 4 who they are.not everybody is perfect and being the way u wanted them to be.u said they are nice friends,so u need to accept them as they are.try 2 be a good listener.good luck !

Answer 2

Haha, I love this question because it states a plain and simple truth about male and female interactions.
I started witing alot about this from what I've noticed and what I've lerned so far about women, from both women and men.

I feel for you hun, but the guys just don't know better. They don't realize that some of the same lame things they say have already been said to you 10 times already that same day. They don't get that that same boring line of questioning just becomming annoying.

Here's the thing, the same way they don't understand whats going on, when you're nice to them, they will take ur kindness to mean interest in them. Do me a favor and try this as an experiment:
Please ask the next guy, "Do you have an interest in me?"
He'll probably say yes. If he says no, just say you were curious and wanted to get that out the way.
If he says yes, tell him that he's an incredible person and he shouldn't take it personally, but you're not the right kind of person for him. Tell him that you thought he would rather know that than keep on letting him focus his attention on you. Let me know how it works. E-mail me what happens at: [e-mail]

I had a friend, a woman in her 30's, and I told her to tell a guy the same thing and she said she didn't want to hurt his feelings. She never told him. Guys would rather know that you don't have the same level of interest. We would rather know the truth.

The thing most guys don't understand is that a woman wants someone she can look up to, not look down upon. She wants a man to be a man. When you put a woman on a pedastal, you're basically telling her that you're not on her level. A woman will never be attracted to someone like that.

Answer 3

Do you think they might be able to take it if you told them they were Chatterboxes? Sounds like that's what they are, while you are more the quiet type. Don't hurt their feelings though. You wrote that "these people are actually quite nice". Some messages can be delivered with humor and that is the best way to go sometimes. Just an idea. Think about it.

Have you ever heard people say "and yada yada yada"? That refers to blabbering people who talk all the time. They will still be talking when they are old too!

Answer 4

lol ohhhh yes. I can relate. I do not know the answer but in this situation i tend to switch off. lol i love this question on so many levels. Thank you for giving me food for thought on a question actually worth mulling over.

Answer 5

If your not enjoying being there don't be there, if it means your job, well thats something you have to decide.
Thats all we need is another fake business man/person in the world, Id line you up and shoot you all if I had the chance.

Answer 6

i stopped pretending a long time ago.if i dont like some1 i'm quick to say.i dont have time to waste but if you have kids be carefull saying that when they around.my 9 yr old told his teacher to not talk to him bcuz he didnt like him.lol!

Answer 7

In such cases, I hate to pretend....you have got vested interest & that is the problem with you.