what does it mean when your easily wound up by people? have low tolerance levels?

Question

could this be part of my border personality disorder? or low esteem which i know i got. what is it? how can you work on it? also. what does it mean when you have lots of rage built up in you from passed traumas? is it repressed anger? the feeling you might lose control when your around people outside? or is this connected to dissocotiation which i experience to when im out. knowledgable answers much appreciated

Answer 1

I think you have an anger disorder and little patience with people due to your past experiences. I dealt with anger for a long time and had absolutely no patience with people. I have worked on it a lot and am feeling much calmer and have developed more patience. It takes work and self control. You are letting people get to you and control your emotions. Decide that you are not going to let people control anything about you anymore. When you are out and around people, try to take long deep breaths and walk away instead of reacting. If you do this over and over again, telling yourself that you won't let them make you angry it will get easier with time.Also, as far as patience with others, I've had to learn that there's really nothing I can do to change it so why let it get me all stressed out. Choose your battles wisely. Some things just aren't worth the energy to respond to. If you are in counseling you need to talk about this to your counselor. It will make your life much better and more manageable.

Answer 2

It could mean alot of things, and our minds are not just components of this personality issue here, and another one there. I think you realise this as you already have some understanding of these problems.

People's tolerance levels vary naturally and our own do too.

Past traumas, and associated emotional repressions or outbursts, are often compounded momories of experiences, and so there's likely to be a mixture of emotions wrapped inside, eg. fear, anger, sadness etc. Dissociation is typically connected to such experiences, as we 'cut-off' from the intensity of what's occurring.

My gut feel is that it is helpful to understand ourselves and decide on goals for personal change. Then, the desired replacement experiences would be your main focus. It might be important to deal therapeutically with any trauma that you may have had. I don't like getting too hooked on labels and only like to label behavioural patterns and not the person type.

Good luck! Rob

Answer 3

some people go through life being a victim... at least in their own minds... perhaps you are one of them.

Try to find something you can easily be successful at and try working on your self esteem... then work towards harder goals.