Should I ignore my work colleague/how do I deal with her?

Question

I don't know what it is about me, but this girl hasn't taken to me at all - not that she has to, but it's things like: one morning, I had a raging headache and I put on one less light in the office on, just to create a little dimness. This girl, came in, and straight away turned the lights on full. I asked her if she wouldn't mind me having the light a little dimmer, until my headache subsides, but she refused (the light wasn't near her desk anyway). Then, as I sit next to a drafty window and I asked her if she wouldn't mind my putting the heater on and asked if we could come to a compromise, but she said, "No, because, the heat will come over to me". She makes no effort to include me in any social activities and never makes communcation with me, even though I've tried. I see her staring at me at the corner of my eye when she's at the fax machine, like she's weighing me up or something. The thing is, how do you deal with someone like this? Shall I just ignore her now?

Answer 1

Definetly, she has some issues but she thinks you're the problem. I've noticed that when I consistently ignore people and quit catering to them and giving them the opportunity to take jabs at me, they ALWAYS turn around and kiss my behind. Trust me, it never fails. Be indifferent and act like she's not there.

Answer 2

go up to her one day when shes by herself and your out of earshot of other people and ask her straight out if she has a problem with you and if she does, then why. talk to her calmly and dont get angry, always be the bigger person. ask her if she thinks she is being reasonable and maybe if you can come to some sort of compromise.

if she doesnt respond to that, then either play her at her own game. next time she wants something like the light dimmed, etc, turn it up and do the opposite.

if all else fails, go to your boss and no necessarily complain, but ask for advice and maybe if you could be moved to another place in the office as long as it isnt any inconvenience to ur boss or other people.

Answer 3

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