I want to die, my daughter in law betrayed me, and my son now hates me cant see grandkids want to die cantfix

Question

She loved me befor they married once my granddaughter was born she told me I wasnt part of the family now my son won't even let me see my grandson who hates this women, I have tryed to fix just an impossible situation. I dont want to live without my grandchildren. I cant talk to them and I miss my son, who I don't know anymore. I usually get him every summer and march break tonight i was told no hes not coming im being punished and all I did was give him the best years of my life and I get no respect he acts like im dead....please help anyone I dont know what to do cant talk to him....

Answer 1

So your saying your son has two children from two different women? Your now daughter-n-law had your granddaughter. And you have a grandson that use to spend summers and march breaks with you? You mentions he hates this woman? His step-mom?
Anyway.....
I feel for you.. I know how you feel. They are using Emotional black mail to hurt you. And its working. You feel like dieing because you miss your family. I also know how that feels.
I have gone thru something simular with my son and grandson.

Although it is hard, you are going to have to let go somewhat.
If you try to pressure your son than you are only going to make matters worse.

Give it some time. If to much time has gone by, you may try to call your daughter-n-law and ask her if you two can talk and try to work things out.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

I advice you to become totally silent. I know it will hurt you, because you love your grandkids and your son so much. But nothing is changing the way things are going right now, when you remain behind their "butts". You keep on trying to change their (or your sons) mind, and your cold daughter in-law loves to see you suffer that way. She's evil enough to get all her satisfaction out of the current situation.
Now it's your turn to take the wind out of her sails by turning tone-deaf and being literally nonexistent for them. This, over some time will make them wonder what's going on, because you are triggering their natural human curiosity.
Your daughter in-law knows very well how to use your grandchildren as a weapon against you and if you take this key weapon away from her you will eventually move on toward your goals. But you must give it time! Time for your son to think and realize what terrible suffering he created. And eventually getting sick and tired of those senseless demands his wife is pushing upon him against you. And as time passes, your grandchildren will keep asking them about you. Little at first, than more and more until their pressure will make your sons and daughter in-laws house of lies come tumbling down.
Do not "bother" them anymore until this mess will resolve itself. You MUST remain silent. If the short distance to their house bothers you, move away. Move as far away that a trip for them to see you would be at least a several hour highway drive. Advice people like neighbors not to tell them where you exactly moved to and don't give out your new phone number.
Imagine they drive by your old house and you aren't there anymore! What an impact, especially for your son! And the more consequence you show by doing all this the shorter the time will be for you to see your grandkids again.
I did it to someone in my family before for a similar reason. It took three years and everything was changed ever after.
I wish you good luck.

Answer 3

im so sorry for you. write your son/daughter-in-law a letter telling them how hurt you are.whatever it is thats made them act like this surely cant be undone? your grandchildren need to know you still love them but the issue seems to be that your son cant stand up to his wife. what kind of son would stop his mother seeing his kids? unless you're a bad lady who has hurt the children it doesnt make any sense. is there not another member of your family who can speak on your behalf??done even think about harming yourself that wont solve anything. be strong and dont give up.something really bad must have happened to make your family so bitter. i hope things work out for you xx

Answer 4

Be patient. Your son may learn the error of his judgement in the future. It sounds like your daughter-in-law is pure evil, and maybe your son will eventually catch on. In the meantime, write a journal or diary about it. Also, I strongly urge you to see a family counselor - that might help a lot.

Answer 5

lady26, your friggin answers are so lame.

I tell ya what, there is not a person in this yahoo bullcorn that can tell y9ou how to handle this situation, these twits have no idea what is truly going on, you better dop some soul searching, find a clergy and clear the air.

and I repeat, not a mental midget in here that knows what you shoould say

Answer 6

I would confront them and ask them what they think you did or said. They obviously have an issue weather it be founded or not. They are also being imature in not confronting you. They are not realizing they are hurting their children more than they are hurting you. I feel sorry for the kids in this. They will regrett their imaturity if they don't grow up now.

Answer 7

What did you do? How did your daughter in law betrayed you? Can you be more specific? Please don't commit suicide or anything cos since you love your granchildren so much, I am sure you will want them to spend time with you and you need to settle the problem with your son. Please calm down.

Answer 8

**** them. If they can't respect you, then forget them. There's more to life than worrying about idiots like them. As for the grandkids, just try to call them, or have them call you and keep in touch.

Answer 9

Hey now, Yahoo Answers is not the place to dump this dirty laundry.
Seek professional help. These are major issues. God Bless.

Answer 10

hang in there. dont let your whole reason for being revolve aroudn them. find something else to make u happy.