but after me loosing my job she started acting different towards me not unsdetrstanding my position and since she has left me with my 2 kids for 3 years and not allowing me to see my new born baby since he was born he is now 2 years old please advise am stranded not knowing how to reach my kids
2007-02-27 18:32:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
are you sure its only becoz of loose of job that your wife whom you have been living with peacefully left you??? Its sounds to me like there may be other reasons why she left and as a man you should be able to know.
The peaceful life you've shared together is worth saving. Plz, look within and without to find out if there are other reasons. Get yourself a job too. She may not want the kids to be around a jobless father as that's not a good example for them. A responsible father should be able to work and take care of the kids and their mother too.
All the best!
2007-02-27 18:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think were getting the whole story here! It's been two years already, and you still do not have a new job? So apparently when you lost your job your wife was pg? She must of figured you weren't looking hard enough for a job, right? I have a feeling you weren't either-if your still unemployed! How do you live now? I think she wants her husband to act like a man, and be responsible! I am not picking on you, I just want you to face how life really is! If you want something bad enough, you'll get moving, and do something about it! If you keep just hanging around, your gonna loose out more than just one way-if you already haven't!
2007-02-28 02:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so wrong I can't stand parents doing that to their children they need both fathers and mothers.That is why we have family law courts why have you waited so long? In Australia you can get free legal help so look for it where ever you live or represent yourself there is more to marriage than just living peacefully.too
Above all get a job its sounds like this all happened 2 - 3 years ago. Snap out of it and get out there and work towards your kids Good luck
2007-02-28 02:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have a steady job now and is financially stable. First, find out where they live. You can get such information either through the newspaper or a private investigator. Then get a judge to review your case. In the meantime, dont harp too much on the past. There's so much more to live for. I'm sure you'll find happiness.
Good luck!
2007-02-28 03:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you are without a job, but why did you wait for 3 years? Or, am I not understanding your question. You still have a right to see your kids. You may want to go to social services. If you are working, you may have to pay child support, but if you are still married to her, you can probably get help to see them.
Guess you married a woman who wasn't willing to go through with you with losing your job, no support, no understanding. So she probably felt insecure, but that doesn't give her the right to leave without you seeing your babies. You as a father have that right.
2007-02-28 02:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get back on your feet, get a decent job, and have your own place( rent or share) and then take her to court. You have to show the judge that you'll be able to take care of them while your kids in your care. And that you are a responsible father. Just because she didn't allow you to see your children. She can't just took them away just because you lost your job. Good luck to you.
2007-02-28 02:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since she may not respond to conversing with you, the best way i guess is to write a good letter to her explaining ur problem in detail and mentioning ur emotional needs that she and the child she has can fulfill. also explain how if u can be together again, u will get strength from the situation to battle ur problems and therefore will be able to tackle them better and be successful.
2007-02-28 02:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by k_electron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife & children are your responsibility. so fulfillment of there needs you must do job & earn money. do job & be able to shoulder your responsibility I think your family will definitly come back to you. Do not think just about your children think seriously about your wife also. Have patience, do hardwork & good luck.
2007-02-28 02:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by rollyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get you an attorney to help with your parental rights concerning your children.
2007-02-28 02:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get the job back asap,maybe she w'd come back again with ur kids.
2007-02-28 02:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋