I'm interviewing for a position in another city. As such I'm starting to do telephone interviews with potential employers. While I look and live as a female my voice is not 100% yet and many get the impression they are speaking with a regular male. I know my situation does not impact the quality of my work in any way and feel I shouldn't have to tell them. On the other hand I would not like to arrive for my first day on the job and be treated poorly (or possible fired) because they assumed I was something else. How would you handle this delicate situation?
Thank you for any help!
2007-02-27 17:58:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
No hun, I don't think you should have to tell them. And if they then treat you unfairly then I would take on a law suit against them. Like you said, it does not effect or impact on your quality of work, so it has nothing to do with them. Don'T think you have to divulge this to everyone, they will not tell you about their planned surgeries or relationship trouble because this is personal and not work related, so is your situation. I have worked in an office with a transsexual previously and I adored her, she was lovely and kind and I don't think that it makes one ounce of difference! Good luck for the interview sweetie and hold your head up high! :-)
2007-02-27 18:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Leeza 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some transsexual are obviously will be able to be notice that they are a man, especially with their voice not fully developed as a woman's voice and their looks are not fully transformed as a woman like feature. You are putting yourself and your job in jeopardy if you did not tell the truth and they find out later,you can write female in paper but say transsexual in an interview. But discrimination sometime is also a factor here. Find out first about the policy of the company where you are applying for with this kind of situation or better yet the EOE law, the equal opportunity employment. If it is a good company, they will treat your situation with confidentiality.
2007-02-27 18:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by anobangtanong 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is hard to answer without knowing WHAT job you are talking about and how come, if you are full-time already, you aren't open about yourself throughout your application?
It is never easy, but if you have the job already then you have legal protection. If you don;t, it is a little harder to prove, if you are not appointed, that the reason for that is discrimination rather than you being not the best candidate.
Ultimately, this will impact massively on your life and work, the question of how is not always in your own control but the fall out is something you have to deal with. I would suggest you talk the specifics through with your counsellor/therapist.
2007-02-28 07:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by Philippa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Unless you have an ambiguous name, (Kelly Kelly in the West Coast) They should be able to tell that you are female. They don't need to know that it was by choice.
2) If, for some reason, they see discrepencies in your background check...Let's say difference in name, back ground, etc....Then go ahead and tell them truthfully. They can't discriminate based on transgender. It'll be a hard case to prove in court if they don't hire you and you try to fight it, but you can.
(Also, would that truly be a place you'd want to work if that happened?)
3) There are women out there who have a husky voice. If anyone says anything negative, throw a veiled sexual harassment threat at them.
Because of the obvious stigma against transgender, I would suggest against saying anything until asked. On the other hand, if you do state that you are transgender and they're accepting of it, then you know that it will be a comfortable workplace.
As far as being treated poorly on the first day....That's something that happens to everyone if the company is poor.
Good luck on the job hunt!
(P.S. Its good to be proud of who you are, but I'm happy that you aren't the person who shoves it in everyone's face.)
2007-02-27 18:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by tomsense76 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'd recommend that you be clear when introducing yourself; i.e. that you introduce yourself as Ms. Jane Smith so they are not confused.
Otherwise, I wouldn't recommend disclosing your previous gender. Most people are still extremely prejudiced against transsexuals, more so than homosexuals (at least from what I've seen).
And, if you're not a troll, you'll probably get a lot of vicious negative comments. Please don't let them get to you. Good luck with finding a great job.
2007-02-27 18:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by kjcedits 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you know for certain they think they are talking to a man and you intend to live as a woman, you need to let them know.
2007-02-27 18:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you work and interview as a male, and act like a woman on your spare time.
2007-02-27 18:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Keep it to yourself. Judging by your performance, it will be hard.
2007-02-27 18:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would grow up, get over yourself, and become the man you were destined to be. Then go get a job.
2007-02-27 18:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
No, but it's a great idea to reaveal it to the thousands of yahoo users out there.
2007-02-27 18:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋