2007-02-27 17:55:36 · 21 answers · asked by ak25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first, figure out if he's for real or using parents as an excuse.
if it's a legitimate concern, then discuss whether or not there is any way to gain parental approval-figure out what the objection is and overcome it, or decide to end the relationship. working together to overcome this can be great practice for handling problems that will occur in marriage.
parents love you best, if they have a sincere and honest concern about a potential partner, it should be evaluated and considered carefully.
no one should promise to marry you and then recant. if they knew that serious parental objections would be a hindrance, they should have addressed and fixed those before promising to marry. be very sure he is not lying to you. be very careful not to let false promises cause you pain and heartbreak.
blessings,
cryllie
2007-02-27 18:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on if your a minor...because if you/ she is then wait!!!
If not then she needs to grow up and make her own choses. What she does is actually a good test.
If she she won't marry you because of what her parents think now...then what kind of life will you to have once your married. Will her parents control your marriage? Yes and what if you have kids?(thats a whole other nightmare) Trust me when i say if she won't marry you after a short while then, your going to have to break it off...For your own sanity. I hate to have to say that but it's the bitter truth...Otherwise it's a hard life a head.
When you marry someone you have to use your head 99% as opposed to your heart 1%. This is a contract for life(or it should be). Love is most important but you have to think of the outcome or you may as well get ready to sig the divorce papers.
2007-02-27 18:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa Kay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very common case so dont worry, in this u shud ask ur parents what is wrong with her whether it is related to caste or religion or the social status whatever it is u explain them that love is more important than anything in this world and tell them that if u go and marry the girl of their choices and u dont love her then what is the use of marrying, just satisfying their wishes and spoiling the life of urself, convince them that u can earn enough money to live a standard life and give them some examples of ur friend love marriage and how their parents has agreed to it.
lastly take help from ur near relative who can understand this and convince ur parents. Good Luck
2007-02-27 18:10:54 · answer #3 · answered by shekhar9891 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT MARRY!! There will be a million men on this planet that will be able to not only win your heart, but your parents as well. Place your family before everyone because when you are sick or in an accident in which you turn handicapped (heaven forbid) who will be there? They will! Assuming you have loving parents....They are here to help you make the right decisions. They have nurtured you and raised you to become the diamond you are today. Don't let them down. Good luck!!
~moralityisrelative1~
2007-02-27 18:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by moralityisrelative1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are not willing to test the parents reaction, don't waste your time, leave.
If it is because the parents have protested, then give them the ultimatum either risk your parents wrath or you will leave.
Regardless it seems the relationship is doomed and would hurt you less in the long term to leave now rather then later.
2007-02-27 18:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are legal age then marrying who you want should be okay. Protesting parents may see something in this relationship that you cannot see and should be talked about more for a compromising result in your favor.
2007-02-27 18:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the parents are protesting about. If it's that they don't like you then we have problem. If it's because you are too young, that's another thing.
2007-02-27 17:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they actually fear their parents that much... that means they have no spine. That would probably be a problem in the future. It may also mean they aren't as keen to marry you as you think they are.
2007-02-27 17:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They'll be dead and you'll be happy in the end. Look at the big picture!
Would you rather marry somebody you don't love or 'be afraid'
Personally I wouldn't marry somebody who is afraid of another person. Weak.
Think about it. Sounds like Hippy/Jehova talk to me.
2007-02-27 17:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch indian (hindustan) movies.. seriously! it's main movie plot is lovers who can't get together (married) bcoz of the parent's disagreement. And in the end of the movie the lovers will get together. U can learn the process there
2007-02-27 18:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by w@NEe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋