I am in a relationship with a someone that I am truly in love with,... however, she never trusted me 100% and she feels that I am beneath her. What should I do?
2007-02-27 17:54:42 · 6 answers · asked by younghitman1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
NEVER associate yourself with someone who thinks they're better than anyone! You find someone that loves you as equally as you love them!!! Being treated as 'beneath' someone is a terrible place and you will eventually start to wonder about your self worth. She's using the trust thing b/c it's the only thing for her to use that makes you feel like she really cares...you know like when she says "I just don't trust you" you go into this frenzy trying to prove you are trustworthy and plus it strokes your ego temporarily. Here's a couple of quotes for you: "Doubt whom you will- - but never doubt yourself"
"DON'T MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY WHEN THEY MAKE YOU AN OPTION"
"We tend to get what we expect"
Just don't settle. There's so much more to uncover than to just settle for someone not even worth it. Make yourself happy too. It should go both ways.
Good luck
2007-02-27 19:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, those are pretty harsh statements you just made about someone you love! YOU feel she does not completely trust you> Well, you must know why? Have you did something for her to feel this? Apparently so! Earning someones trust back is a hardship, it can take forever-or at least feel like it. Depends on the pain the person felt! Reverse the situation, and see how you might feel. Now-about she feels your beneath her, that is a for sure wrong statement. It's YOU who feels beneath her, you can't blame that feeling on anyone BUT yourself. No-one makes anyone feel anything-unless we permit them. It's called being in charge of our own emotions. Maybe it's the way she acts, or talks, that has you feeling inferior to her. Your needing to work on building up your confidence and self-esteem than. Another person is not responsible for your happiness, you are. So either it's time to grow up, and start taking responsibility for yourself, and your own emotions, or move on so you aren't blaming her for your down falls- or communicate together-and really talk out everything honestly. Good luck!
2007-02-27 18:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is not a condition of a relationship. Trust is earned following a series of experiences that make you worthy of that trust. Moreover, trust is a continuum not only because we sometimes fail in our ability to show that we are trustworthy, but because trust is rarely 100%. Based on this understanding of trust, one or a combination of three scenarios are possible which would explain why she has a lack of trust in you. First, maybe you've done something that made her loose trust in you ie. late with appointments, cheating, flirting, lying, embellishing. Second, you haven't been with her long enough to earn that trust. Third, and most importantly, perhaps her experiences with trust in the past have been marked with disappointment, in which case her trust will be that much harder to earn.
2007-02-27 19:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by roger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not having trust is one thing, but why would you want to be with someone that refuses to reciprocate your feelings and the bond you want to share with her? Beneath her?
You know what you think about this dilemma, you just need to listen to yourself*
2007-02-27 18:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by MsElainious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay and play the game,or take your emotions and go home! Trust issues run very deep. She will not be changed over night. Its up to you, GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-27 18:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by sandra b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE MAN get out while you still can..otherwise she'll make your life a living hell!!!!
2007-02-27 17:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by mary_parenteau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋