I have been married for 5 years and i have one kid. We are currently undergoing a divorce due to incompatibility. During the seperation i met another lady and fell in love head over heels. she is wonderful and keeps me happy all the time. During this time i kept in touch with my wife as well cos of the child. I am now in love with both women and i dont know what to do. I am with them both at present and i cant decide what i want in life...what should i do?
2007-02-27 17:51:09 · 14 answers · asked by lincolnveto 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I recommend that you read the following book: Harville Hendrix's "Getting the love you want." This book will be able to tell you about why you fell in love with both women at the same time.
And then, for your life-decisions, read Scott Peck's "the Road Less Travelled." Both copies are very good for your situation.
After reading those books you will soon discover that you found incredibly similar type of woman that you are divorcing now. And you need to be someone special in order to make life-decisions.
2007-02-27 18:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by dansdna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you should include the interests of your child into your consideration of what to do.
Children do best when they live with their natural parents, provided that their parents get along well.
If you can manage to reconcile with your wife and find a way to resolve any new conflicts that may come in the future, then perhaps you should stop the divorce proceedings and stay with your wife.
When people get married, they usually promise to each other, to their community, to the government, and to God (if they believe in one) that they will stay together for better or for worse until death.
And if you and your wife have made such a promise, then perhaps you should try to fulfil it.
Some promises are impossible to keep. But whether keeping your marriage promise is possible or not only you and your wife can decide.
2007-02-28 02:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in a very short way i can say that u pls b with ur wife because u r again falling in love with her and successful marriage is that where a person falls in love with same person again and again, u r actually being attracted to the second lady but ur heart feels only about ur wife, think about ur kid future and feel the same pain when ur wife wud have done this thing to u and we men use women but never care about emotions of our love ones, u think about the promises u made when u married and told her that u will always b there for her but with the passage of time u r betraying her, it might b that she is not looking that gorgeous which she was before but have u ever wonder what will happen to u when u get older and any other women dump u for some smart guys, this sound bad but it is going to b true, if u hurt ur wife. pls do not leave ur wife , she needs u and ur kid.
2007-02-28 02:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by shekhar9891 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two words...GROW UP!
you cannot possibly "compare" the feelings and relationship you have with your wife and the mother of your child with those which come with the first flush of a new relationship. those head-over-heels, wonderful, happy-all-the-time feelings dont' last forever for anybody who's honest. relationships change, deepen, and grow IF you FEED them.
you're not in love with ANYBODY at the present...anybody but yourself. an adult in love puts the feelings and well-being of the other partner first. have you ever done that for your wife? your main comment on your new lady was that "she keeps ME happy all the time"
think about it. think about the life you've "blessed" your child with. are you the kind of person you really want to be? can you stand tall and be proud of yourself?
a selfish person will be incompatible with everybody.
2007-02-28 02:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this never go back is bullcrap. The people who say this are bitter and jaded. If you still love her, and your sure she still loves you. Some work can save things. Many people spilt up and after time and seeing others realize the grass wasn't as green as they thought. If you still love each other its never too late. If your sure you can work it out with your wife, break it off with the girl and let your wife know how you feel.
2007-02-28 05:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
choose. you are now in the middle of divorce proceedings. do you want another chance with your wife or do you want a new life with the other woman? you have to choose, man. you can't have them both. if you are still in love with your wife, why not give it another try? have another go at your marriage. who knows, it may work this time.but you have to let the other woman go. it will be unfair to her if you hold on to her.
2007-02-28 01:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are divorced. It didnt work out with your wife the first time around. Move on from your failed marriage. Be a great father to your child.
2007-02-28 01:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by maria s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
keep in contact with the your kid for sure but never go back to old wifie that just stirs things up a buddy of mine once told me never stop and go back to what you left/what left you go forward and find something new but be civil to you ex for the kid sake
2007-02-28 01:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by golf_tango83 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know the old addage"No man can serve two Gods for he will love one and hate the other."
2007-02-28 02:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by ____ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go 2 peekvid and watch the movie the secret make ur life what u want it 2 b
2007-02-28 02:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋