All of us are married but, one is going through a divorce. We all flirt with each other. It is one male and two females. I really want to be with him. We have talked about it several times.This other females also flirts with him. So we were going to arrange to have a 3some ( on his birthday) and we have a bet on who will back out first. We all have talked about it. We even talked about our excuses of getting out of the house. So i guess we have already started the process of our 3 some. What should I do?
2007-02-27 17:44:43 · 16 answers · asked by needing attention 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will be cheating no matter which way it goes. This means if you intend to go through with it, either tell your husband or leave him.
You can't remain married if you go through with this.
My advice is to wake up and realise that regardless of how good the fantasy is it will be the end of your marriage either through your guilt, or if your hubby finds out.
2007-02-27 18:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you insane?!!! Just remember...you don't **** where you eat. You'll have to face these people everyday and what if he's hot but not in bed. Or what if he shows more of an attraction to her? Will that change the atmosphere at work. Not to mention that your married...that is so unfair to your partner. Just say no...or include him in the (4some!) The grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. What if your man finds out? Once you do this your going to have such feelings of guilt and the sex you have with 2 other people could change the way you feel about the sex at home...I know from experience...
2007-02-28 01:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by poodlemama1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making a big mistake. First of all you are all commit ed in a marriage. You will regret this because eventually it will come out and you will all have to deal with the consequences maybe even lose your jobs. It is very difficult to work with people you are sexually intertwined with. It does not just go away. If your spouses find out what will you do? Quit your job. Your spouse may not ever forgive you. Are you willing to chance that. One night of fun sex it not worth a marriage. Think about it.
2007-02-28 10:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... interesting co - workers. Is this right in your own mind? What would your spouse feel on this. Is it an achievement in your eyes to decieve your spouse succesfully.. All this will matter only until the water runs dry... The right thing is always difficult to do.. The wrong is always fun and pleasurable... the choice is your and so is the guilt you will have to face someday. What goes around surely comes around.. its the logic of the world.. All the best and please think twice before you hurt someone that loves you dearly.
2007-02-28 01:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by lincolnveto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A piont to ponder. Remember that you work with these people. Are you going to be comfortable around them if something doesn't work out or if it gets out in your work place that you are having sex with two people in your office? You need to be comfortable in the place you work , you spend a lot of time there. It sounds like you like this guy are you willing to share him with someone else and will you be willing to share him in the future if something were to come of this relationship. Would you be willing to give up your marriage for a night of fun and that's proably all it will amount too. Although I want to be objective about this how would you feel if your spouse did that to you
2007-02-28 10:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by pat b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
given your marital status' have any of you considered 1 being honest w/spouse and sharing your interests 2 involving them 3 considered your feelings if you were to find out your spouse already had participated in something of this nature and you did not know
2007-02-28 03:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by JOHN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, I think you already know. How do you think your spouse would feel? Or how would you feel if your spouse was considering doing the same.
Some things just shouldn't be done.
2007-02-28 01:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by HeIsMyAllinAll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better talk to hubby first. maybe he would like the same in return, then i think it would be ok. also remember you have to see these people everyday. it's not like the stranger who if things go bad you never have to see again. be careful!
2007-02-28 02:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lynne M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring your husband to the birthday party. (You said you're married.) Then he can be the one to "force" you out of it.
2007-02-28 09:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with it and invite your husband. I am sure he will want to be a part in it
2007-02-28 05:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋