My man complains that i am dryer than i used to be. So I go to the doctor and tell him that at my annual physical. My doctor tells me to tell him that I am not going thru the change. That we need to have a longer time in the foreplay area. He also said that some women take longer than others. However my man is so quick with the foreplay with his part. So I can do my part. How do I make him not be selfish and do me a little longer?
2007-02-27 17:36:19 · 12 answers · asked by needing attention 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Simply tell him that you need more stimulation to get you more naturally lubricated. A good sex life requires a lot of communication and give and take.
I would also get a good lubricant. Sometimes we just get a little dryer during sex as well.
2007-02-27 17:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the complete opposite problem, so I kinda understand where you're coming from. I spend a lot of time doing that because I like that it makes her feel good and I just don't like it when she doesn't get what she needs. If ya know what I mean. She is the only woman that I've been with that doesn't return the foreplay favor. I know how frustrated you feel. I've tried coming right out and letting her know what I feel as well as ask her where she is coming from, but she refuses to talk about it. That's the only thing that I could suggest you do. It didn't work for me but maybe it will for you. You would at least kinda get an idea where he is at and if there is anything you can do to work on it together. After all it is a mutual thing and if he complains about how dry you are he should quit his complaining and do something about it. It's not like it's torture!
2007-02-28 01:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Eric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg, we have the same issue. lol It seems like guys think that they can just show us a penis and we're supposed to get excited over it. Whoop-t-do! Heck, if you find out how to not make your man sexually selfish, please give me your secret. My bf is great when it comes to emotional support and cuddling, but I don't get foreplay, which sucks. I'm sure you know exactly what I'm going through. It looks like both of us will have to rely on vibrators or somethin' now. lol Since my bf is selfish, I don't give it to him anymore (at least I haven't for the last 2 weeks and he's not getting it this week 'cause I'm about to start my period). If I'm not turned on, then I won't let him have his fun. That may sound selfish, but I used to always make it about him... you know, doing things he liked, including oral, etc., yet I pretty much had to beg for it (and I bathe 2x a day and am clean, so I'm not like nasty down south). Anyhoot, good luck! If you need a vibrator, Xandria.com has some for decent prices.
Seriously. lol
2007-02-28 02:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question doesn't really say, but foreplay goes both ways, both him giving to you and you giving to him. If you don't do so already, make it a mutual thing. I personally believe in lots of foreplay before lovemaking but not all guys are that way, they are just in to much of a hurry to get to the sex, and tha tis unfortunate. The easiest way to make the foreplay last longer is to not let him have sex with you until you are ready for it. If he absolutely refuses, they do make personal lubricants that you can buy and use before you make love so that you are not so dry. For you sake I hope he chooses more foreplay.
2007-02-28 01:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not selfish to ask him for things that you need. It's selfish not to return the favour! Tell your husband what you like and what you want and I suggest you invest in a good water based lubricant as well. Personally, my lover and I like the Durex warming lube, not to be used during anal sex though! I learned that one the hard way hahaha.
2007-02-28 01:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a book on new positions and things to do. that way he may be more willing to spend more time trying to do other things than go right to it.
if you don't tell him what you want how will he know. he may think he is doing everything on point and he is the bomb.
so voice your concerns, take a trip to the get it girl shop and yall might end up with a change of life baby! ;-)
2007-02-28 01:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by showstopper18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just need to tell him that helping u out in the foreplay are will help sex for both of u. plus he should want to do that stuff anyways... most guys do. and u should also try some lubricant. i love the ky warming liquid!
2007-02-28 01:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by blonde_brownie526 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's perfectly natural for lubrication to fall off as you age. There's a large number of lubricants on the market, you should experiment and find one to your liking.
Second, if you're not getting sufficiently aroused, then you should tell him that you're not ready. Stand firm and make sure that he takes care of you, or he can really hurt you.
2007-02-28 01:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great hint is kissing. A great way to hold him back is to grab hold of his ears and use them like a steering wheel. You can tilt him or pull him back. This stuff adds a bit of teasing and can add about twenty minutes if used correctly.
There are other ways, but you need to ask nicely if you want to know. :)
Franklin
2007-02-28 01:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides the fact the Eric and you should get together then you will have wonderfull sex, I think its time for you to buy a nice toy for yourself battery operated it will be fun for both of you. Time for the vibe.
2007-02-28 02:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by none 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋