k me and my friend are arguing about this.. shes kinda dating a guy thats 36 and shes only almost 17!!! i say its stupid for her to do that. but she says its fine cuz age doesnt matter and they love each other!! k he has a family and she knows! in matter of fact shes pretty much like best friends with his daughter.. its step daughter but still!!! and shes really good friends with his wife too.. shes close to his whole family!! i think its extremely gross.. but she just WONT LISTEN TO ME!!! please tell me what i can do to tell her to stop this.!!?! please.. i dont want her to be a homewrecker or something like that!!! please help me!
2007-02-27 17:28:03 · 22 answers · asked by im just me*** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why is she dating a married man? That is the gross thing about it. Age really doesn't matter if she's happy.
2007-02-27 17:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you should go to the police and report him. He needs to be in jail. He's a disgusting pedophile. She is wrong for "dating" this guy. He won't ever make a future with her. He's just using her for a piece of @$$. A 16 yr old girl has no business with a guy above age 18 (19 at the oldest). She's just being stubborn because she's emotionally invested in him. I went through something similar when I was her age (by similar, I mean the age thing), so I really hope you pull the plug on it now while you can 'cause after what happened to me happened (I won't go into details), I was screwed up for a few years and still have trust issues with men. Please tell the cops and her parents about this immediately.
2007-02-27 18:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 09:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought it wrong for my sister to marry a man who was as old as my mother. He offered her only money, it seemed to me. They had their divorce finalized this last year.
She came out of the deal with money, status, her ex has to pay child support since he adopted her son, clientelle from where she was working before, etc. Men in my opinion who can't find someone their own age are sleezzy, like my sister's ex, but my sister would have a different story, I'm sure.
It seems wrong to me for your friend to wreck a home because of that guys thing for much younger women. Maybe ask your friend and that guy's daughter to dance for him......maybe that will change his mind.....it just seems like that is what this guy wants, a close relationship with his daughter and not a wife that is his daughters age. And by the way, if he does want his daughter and your friend to dance, that is just sick and I would call the FBI about that.
Your "friend" is going to do whatever they are going to do and you can't stop them from this, but you can tell them how you feel and stop being their friend because of this. It is normal to display your values, contrary to what peer pressure america says.
2007-02-27 17:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, normally I would say for adults it's fine, so long as they're dating for the right reasons. For someone under 21, well, Mr. Man could be looking at some hefty charges. If they're *really* interested in each other for the right reasons, they should have no problem waiting until she's 21. And if he's just in it because he's a perv, well, then at least she'd be free of him.
2007-02-27 17:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by Gin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all, dating a guy 20 years older than you is WRONG! he doesn't love her hes just a perv, and how can she be friends with his WIFE if shes DATING him?! tell her to get away from him, and to never date guys that are more than 7 years older than her MAX.
2007-02-27 17:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by ~Val~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a home wrecker ,if you care about your friend , tell her that nothing good will come of this. f she would be few years older like mid 20s and he would be 45 it would be O.k.
he can get in her head ,and she wont even realize it . she is at an age where she is still discovering herself. help your friend , someday she'll thank you.
AND HE HAS A FAMILY.....HE IS THE HOME WRECKER!!!!!!!
this guy is a looser ,and he is pathetic , and should get an *** whooping from her father , brother , or somebody !!!
2007-02-27 17:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by DOC Holliday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is she dating a guy who has a wife? I would think that's more of a problem than the fact that he's 20 years older.
2007-02-27 17:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by Surely Funke 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong...as long as he provides your needs...i have dated a man when i was 13, and he was 15 years older then i was...were together for 5 years...had a couple of kids...and then we broke up because he chose drinking over me...and now i am 23...my husband is 49...we have a child together...been together for 6 years now...we have been though hell and back...and he supports me in every way...i support him in every way...just keep going to school and get your grade 12, like me...the last guy i was with the one that was 15 years older then i ws, didnt want me to go, and he was jealous type, but the one i am with is not jealous...he wants to make sure that i have a good future, a good steady job, and be able to look after myself, and the kids just in case anything happens to him...he has alot of health problems...and i worry for him time to time...but h'es ok..i love the man that i am with...and would never try to hurt him, so to answer your question about dating an oler man wrong...for experience when i was young...yes its ok...as long as helps you get where you want to go in life...you need a stable life...someone you can count on, and make sure you keep in touch with your friends...i have lots all my freinds in 1997, since that last realtionship didnt work...but anywho hope this helps you.
Mary
2007-02-27 18:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by mary_parenteau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta give her some tough love, and clue her parents in. this guy is totally taking advantage of her inexperience; she could be seriously hurt and emotionally damaged. sure, age doesn't matter- unless the girl is underage and the guy is a selfish jerk. married men don't date-they have illicit affairs and damage their own families. if you cannot tell her parents, then you must tell your school counselor or teacher. you can do that anonymously. be brave and do the right thing.
praying for you both,
cryllie
2007-02-27 17:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by cryllie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the older you get the less age seems to matter...one challenge that arises is the generation gap...who wants to take their dad to a party. she'll want to go out and he'll eventually want to retire...litterally. and, well, the family invasion thing is wrong...lets face it...guys tend to follow their "antennae" too much and she probably makes him feel like he's still got it ...so he'll work harder to keep this relationship going cause its self serving. Good luck stopping it before it spins out of control on its own.
2007-02-27 17:39:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋