I have a friend that I've known for some time. We have been in an enormous fight for the last six months, and I feel terrible. It was over the fact that sometimes she can be really horrible about other people, which I thought was very cruel. We haven't spoken to eachother for so long. I feel terrible because I've made friends with another person, who is a nice girl, but I know that my other freind is far more important to me- this new friend is a rather weak person, and tends to just follow anybody who is considered to be worth knowing. She hasn't got a backbone and that really irritates me. My problem is that both my ex friend and I are very proud, stubborn people (which is probably why we were friends in the first place!!) and neither of us can bring ourselves to apologise. She made an attempt to talk to me a week after the arguement happened, but I brushed her off. How can we rekindle our friendship again? HELP!!!
2007-02-27 17:27:45 · 7 answers · asked by jemm4president 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She made an attempt, which shows the friendship is valuable to her too. Use a technique that I use: take a deep breath, call her, and apoligize! It takes guts and humility. You are actually only apoligizing for your part, but don't say that to her or it will piss her off. Tell her that she is important to you and you miss the friendship. Chances are about 95% that she will also apoligize!
Good luck & I hope you resolve the issue!
2007-02-27 17:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can certainly understand how you miss her so much even though you talked to her about her mean behavior towards others sometimes. Most if not all of us have been there where we have a liking for a person even though they have such flaws. Perhaps you can either call her as someone else suggested or even write her a heartfelt letter. I would just keep in mind that if you both rekindle your friendship and she is abusive towards you in any way including verbally or physically or if her behavior makes you feel uncomfortable with how she treats others, to really consider separating yourself from her and her life. She just may not be a healthy enough person for you to have in your life and just cherishing the good times in the past is more viable. I like the motto: 'Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.'
2007-02-28 01:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by jannsody 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some times problems arrive, you must need to think in somethings (sorry about my bad english). 1.- I can tell you, fault isn't just yours; fault is of two!!. 2. You may see ok!, she is your friend and try to tolerate (tolerance is important), but when somethings did'nt like you in her actitude you may said to her what happen, maybe she did not know, or see when she does, you may said : " sorry I don't like me your actude!!", and if she realy apreciate you, in the next time she may try to be in silence and non have a bad actitude; but talk with her, if you don't talk each other, you never know what happen; is hard to begin o start but, when you do it, you gonna feel MUCH better. 3. I don't know were you come from, sometimes in some countries people has a "best friend" and close the door to others, try to meet or know more your new friend, and open your mind to others you may found over there many nice people that need to be listen, you may see, please try!! and look aroud, well if good things happen you may be 3 best friends, non just 2, but TALKING you may found a real answer to your own question.
2007-02-28 02:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by mxikna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bite the bullet babes and the next time you see her push your pride aside and tell her you missing her friendship ask if she wants to catch up with you again if she brushes you aside this time take it on the chin and try one final time a week later if still no joy probably best to leave the ball in her court then good luck:)
However please be considerate of the girl you got as a friend at the moment don't just drop her let her down gently to save her as much hurt as possible.
2007-02-28 02:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by clare w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter what kind of person you are; a friend is a friend. and if you let a fight get in the way they shesh you don't know anything about friendship. fights happen to anyone sweety. if she is your friend and you feel comforable around her and feel a great connection then talk to her. be nice. i didn't say be super friends again i mean just take it slow. learn more about her.see hte other side of your friend. all i am saying is watch your step. and if you are her friend you would watch hers.
2007-02-28 01:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone must commit to being the one to apologize & mean it There is just no easy way a good friend is hard to find we all have faults so take that plunge!! I am stubborn too
2007-02-28 01:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should just call her. if she wont hear it, then at least u know u tried? if its too late, you have to accept it, and plus, everything happens for a reason. if shes a true friend, then she will listen.
2007-02-28 01:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by marimar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋