this elementary school counselor picked out only these 4 girls ( mexicans ages 7-8) out of 9 girls in this classroom and said they are now a girls club. Then she asked about their parents home life. This same counselor previously labeled a little girl as the divorcee group and others as single mom group. Well she chose my daughter and asked about my life. I feel that if she wants to know about me she should ask me. what do you think? im widowed and it upset my daughter talking about her deceased father.
2007-02-27 17:19:22 · 5 answers · asked by liebre 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
Something doesn't sound right about this counselor. Anybody that has worked with kids knows that they hate being singled out or left out of a group. She doesn't sound sensitive to her students' lives.
Whenever I talk about anything in class that I know is going to be difficult for a student, I actually call the parents and ask if it is okay. For example, we were doing Death and the Law, and I had a 16 year old boy who lost his father a few months before. I checked to be sure he could handle the conversation. And when I did a unit on Auto Insurance, I had a girl removed from class during the unit (she had caused an accident in which someone died). I think it's important to consider whether they are ready to talk, and I'm not a psychologist.....just using common sense.
2007-02-27 22:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you make this counselor's supervisor aware of this immediately.
Perhaps this counselor is working on a PhD or something and is using this to do her homework or something. Either way it sounds innappropriate and children that age should not be questioned by a counselor without parental notification.
If you have to, report her anonymously to the school board or to whatever investigative unit there is for the school. Another idea is to "accidentally" ask one of the girls in front of the parents about the "club" and see if the parent has a clue what's going on.
You can protect the rights of these children anonymously if they are, indeed, being abused.
2007-02-27 23:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely inappropriate to label groups of children in the class in this manner. Complain to the principal. The counselor has no right to inquire about the students' home life unless it is impeding on the students' behavior in school or the students' safety seems to be at risk.
2007-02-27 17:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by artemisaodc1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's one of the dangers of public schools today: everyone is a counselor of some sort and has everyone's children's best interests at heart. Kids are vulnerable to any teacher's preconceived and pre-required by the school system, ergo, by society, roundly drilled and espoused intentions. Parents NEED to be involved in what's going on in the schools for not only their children's sakes, but for their own.
2007-02-27 18:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by Who Knew? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is promoting unembarrassed talk about the childs life in such a manner that your child and the others have less hangups about their parential influences then she is doing a good job Give her a chance and go talk to her.
2007-02-27 17:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋