I'm 20 years old I moved out when I was 17 and Me and my parents don't talk because I was taken out of their abusive home. I am getting married and want to resolve my issues now before I get married because I am tiard of dealing with all my hurting emotions, and expressing them to my fieance. I want to be positive and happy but inside i feel alone and hurt and scared, is there hope for me, or has it been too long for me to fix the damaged person I long to be?
2007-02-27 17:12:38 · 7 answers · asked by Nicole F 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can help yourself. Writing down a list of standards to hold yourself to can help. It takes time to deal with hurts. One strategy might be to realize when you are thinking of those hurtful times, and immediately replace that thought with a thought of a successful moment you had. Start small and build successes in your life, and the momentum of what you've done will continue to lead you in the right direction.
2007-02-27 17:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it hasn't been too long for you to fix the damaged person you believe yourself to be. Honestly though, it could take a lifetime to become the person you would like to be. You just need to keep sorting through what you went thru, how you feel about it, decide if you had any part in it, who's to blame, etc, etc, etc. It's hard and exhausting but well worth it.
2007-02-28 01:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to change something about yourself to be more positive. I really suggest that you see a counselor a few times before you get married. I'm sure your fiance is happy to listen to you and tries to understand but you need to talk to a third party, someone neutral. They can help you get to where you want to be faster. You don't want to start your married life with these underlying problems that seem to haunt you. Do it for you and for your future husband. Good luck.
2007-02-28 11:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is hope for you. I had a similar life between the ages of 17-20 that included darkness, depression and drugs.
The only thing that can save you and give you the joy you need in your life is Jesus Christ. Let him into your life and you will be amazed and relieved at how much he can and will do for you. He has saved me and millions of others from their dark past, and I know he can fill the void in your soul if you only let him in. You have nothing to lose!!
2007-02-28 01:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by taurus_0404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will fix yourself into the person you truly want to be. Its a very long process and you will have to come face-to-face with some very hard issues. It took me a good 30 years to get my act together. Now I know life is great and its real good to be alive.
2007-02-28 01:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is you Want to be positive and happy. Rest all is unworthy of your attention. you donot need to get over your past because that would involve reliving it in order to get control over it which is all useless since your aim is marriage and future happiness in yourand fiancee's life. Feel happy in spite of yourself.
2007-02-28 01:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by fleur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to peekvid and watch the movie the secret make life what u want it 2 be
2007-02-28 02:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋