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hi i had been loving this guy before marriage and later he comes to me and says he is engaged and he is getting married i had lots of problem when i had loved him he use to beat me and suspect me eith every guy i talk to also once he daid whith whom did i sleep with all those kind of thing i even had sex with him and concieved his baby and he never accepted me .he told me to drop his chid and i did .now he is married to a girl two months ago i am heart broken .on this side my parents are forcing me to get married to another guy who seems a nice guy what should i do i am confussed and hurt how can i go on a another realationship my parents do not know and i am just gone an abortion and i am 23 old what should i do how to go ahead pls explain

Answer 1

He beat you up, he treated you badly, he was cheating on his fiance with you, he made you pregnant and you had an abortion. I am confused about his dad's part in this. You need to wake up and smell the roses. Get away from these people, they will not change. Tell your folks you're not ready for marriage yet but say you would like to get to know the new man. If he is decent you will soon notice the difference between someone who really cares for you and some scum who beats you. I know which life I would choose.

Answer 2

Uhm, you're 23 years old and your parents are forcing you to get married??? You miss a guy who treated you like garbage?? You had an abortion simply because you were told to not because you chose to?? I think you need a lot more help than Yahoo Answers can give!! Get counselling to help you grow a back bone. Don't marry this new guy. Get over your recent abortion. What's done is done and it's really not that big of a deal. I had one too, but that was my choice not my husband's.

Answer 3

Well if he was accusing you of sleeping with all your male friends he was unsure of himself and maybe to help you you should go ahead and marry the guy you parents want you to but first make sure that you can love this guy

hope this helped you a bit

Answer 4

don' t look back at the crook who never trusted he never even bothered about u aand never trusted u either.it is hard but forget ur past dig a grave and bury it
start a new life if ur parents dont know then dont tell them anythin this is not the right time to say it
save ur honor and future
All the best

Answer 5

My lady you need to get your self together.and love your self 1st.and you dont feel its the right guy to marry don't.things will come together for you, you have to believe in something.if you believe in god pray.What is in the past is in the past it is a learning curve in life.your 23 you make a new beginning today,and parent care or not love your self and respect your self and learn from this my friend shane

Answer 6

hi, you need to talk to your parents and let them know that you
are not ready for marrige with him or any one else right now. you
need to get your self together first before you can give your
self complettly to another person. you are going through a lot
of emotions right now and you need time to deal with everything
that going on in your life. other wise you will make the same
mistakes over again.

Answer 7

It amazes me that a man can treat a woman so badly and yet she’s still there saying “but I love him”. I simply don’t understand that (and I’m a woman). I’ve never loved a man enough to let him treat me like crap. And here's a newsflash: if he's treating you like crap, one thing's for darn sure... HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU.

Forget him! It’s as simple as that.

Answer 8

be glad you are away from him.... never stay with a man that hurts you...take care of yourself and then you'll find someone who will love you.... don't marry because someone else wants you to....
your only 23, go back to school and get your own place... try not to depend on anyone else..... you can do it... :)