I saw the guy that I was once attracted to but he excluded me because of another girl. I think of him often and seeing him in class reminds me of him being with me in the past. Now he's married and I don't want to have anything to do with him. Why am I feeling this way?
2007-02-27 16:48:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think you're grieving for a love- lost. You're trying to put him out of your life, but he's still in your heart. Letting "go" is hard- & can take a very long time. You WILL- eventually. But you're not "there" yet. Good luck. :)
2007-02-27 17:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you are human. You still have an attraction to
the man, regardless of his current relationship, even tho'
you state you were 'once' attracted to him.
There are things in life that we would like, or that we want,
but things that realistically we will never have. The same
thing is true in your situation. The only way to "stop" feeling
this way is to accept reality, and move on. This is the only
way we can expect to function. We have to realize that
it wasn't meant to be.....and it wasn't based on your own
statement.
As long as you place this attraction above seeking and
making new relationships with new men, you will be miserable.
Place your happiness first and place the attraction where
it belongs...in the attic. Remember, we put things in the
attic that we still might care a little about, but we don't won't
them in our way. Eventually, you'll get in a clean-out
mood, and put your "attraction" for this guy in the yard sale.
Best of luck. There is someone out there who is a better
catch. Go for it. I have an idea you will make some guy a
very happy man.
2007-02-27 17:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by Northwest Womps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u still have feelings 4 the guy and it's possible that the guy still has feelings 4 u even though he's married. Ppl r often tempted to have someone that they can no longer have. Remind urself there r lots of guys that r better than him IF he didn't appreciate or love u in the first place.
2007-02-27 17:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to feel this way :) The best way to get over it completely is by giving urself a chance with another. If ur thinking of giving relationships a break for now, take up some kind of activity that interests u, (It cld be anything) hang out with ur friends more & just be happy!
what's in the past, stays in the past. Dont let it affect ur present or even future. Time heals all wounds :)
Take care!
2007-02-27 17:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by Shobha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did the guy do somthing that makes u thinking of him? if he excluded u why r u still attracted to him? Get involved in other things of ur life and volunteer work keep busy and u will eventually erase him from ur memory.
2007-02-27 17:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously had strong feelings about him and you felt hurt that he ignored you. You wish that you could have got close to him and felt rejected. Now you are the one who is rejecting him by not wanting anything to do with him. You are mirroring his behaviour from years ago. I take it you can see him and that he is still part of your life in some way. You need to try to move on.
2007-02-27 20:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by KANGA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you haven't truly moved on with your life. Make new friends, join groups and be with other people so you will have something without the person and before you know it you won't be feeling this way, but happy and probably more secure in being who you are.
2007-02-27 17:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in similar situation like ur having so i know it's easy not to forget the man in question. Why do u feel this way? cos the more u don't want to get involved with him the more u want to have him whether it's sexual or not and it's human nature.
2007-02-27 17:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rachelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're growing up. Now that hes officially off the market, you've gotten past him, and now you should find an open man, and get things started with him.
2007-02-27 17:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what you feel is common,it doesn't change it only gets worse ...but....there is a way
but i don't know it
am sorry i thought i did
but i don't.......
there are plenty other guys who will have you..
that's the way the dice rolls EVERYTHING IS A GAMBLE
2007-02-28 01:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by lucky 7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋