Me ex of 7 years left me 8 months pregnant. This is kind of therapy for me because I love hearing advice..He moved 2 months ago to take a job with his daddy..then called a month ago to break it off with me..We was supposed to be moving there anyhow..I know it isn't another woman...which was my first thought. He calls all the time and tonight we got in a arguement about child support..he thinks that I am stupid...He doesn't want me to go to court. He wants to get a statement signed by witnesses. He is making almost 5 grand a month and only wants to send me 500?? ha! The convo first started off by me asking him if he was SURE that we wasn't going to ever be together again and he said "pretty sure...why" then I started about the child support and he flipped. I told him we shouldn't talk for awhile because we need to clear our heads and he needs to be sure he is making the right choice..Should I still go for child support or just give it a few weeks? I don't know if I can until I have him.
2007-02-27 16:40:44 · 12 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
having the baby is what I mean. Has anyone ever went through this? I feel stupid because I want him back..Yes we was engaged and had the wedding planned before I got pregnant and he wanted me to get pregnant but the Dr. told me I wouldn't be able to ever have kids so I took this as a sign from God. I am concentrated on my child but I really hope he comes to his senses. Thanks!
2007-02-27 16:42:02 · update #1
Also, his father also bailed on him when he was a baby yet that is who he has turned to...I think he might think he will be a failure as a father
2007-02-27 16:43:47 · update #2
From my experience and knowledge about child support. If it isn't filed in court and not a court order, you can not collect any back child support nor can you hold him to pay. So please do it though the court system, I know that it will put a damper on whats left of your relationship, but it is the right thing to do for your child. If the two of you get back together, than you can change the court order. The amount of child care is not his or yours to decided, it is base on income. Dont feel guilty or bad, it is not just your responsibility to care and provide for your child. He made a decision for himself without you, which will effect you and his child more than you know. I do hope things work out for you as you want them too, You are doing the right thing by taking care of your self and putting your child first. Your going to be a great mom. Bless you
2007-02-27 16:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you are getting some support from friends or family during this pregnancy for you just need to worry about taking care of yourself and having a healthy baby. I think the purpose for child support is because there is proof that a child was born between the union of the two of you, and if the child is not yet born then I do not think that you can apply for chil d support until it is.Think on peaceful thoughts and the welfare of the baby. If you want to discuss child support with the father wait until you have at least delivered the baby. Make sure that it is through the Courts for that will give you more rights for the child. Congrats.
2007-02-28 00:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm not really sure of the whole situation (ur details were kinda confuzzling) but i think u should give it a couple weeks for the intesity of the situation to "fizzle down". Then, start talking about the whole child support or w/e. u should definitley go to court if he doens't give child support, because u should have the right to it. Definitley don't get an abortion- you'd be killing God's creation. if ur not going to keep the child, at least put it up for adoption, and check out the adopters throgoughly.
That would be advice coming from a 13 year old guy (me!!!)
But anyway, it's good that u went on yahoo. new perspectives can help u make the right choice. i know from experience. i been through a lot of trauma myself
2007-02-28 00:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the name of all that is holy, go to court and get a child support order. You are screw*d without it. If he would leave you when you are eight months pregnant and wants to get a "statement" signed by "witnesses", God only knows what else he will do. You are not stupid for wanting him back; that's normal. You are going through a grieving process for the loss of a relationship. The only stupid thing would be to go back to him without some sort of legal order for child support because he will most likely leave you again, this time with a crying child. I'm very sorry you are having to deal with this and I wish you all the best. God Bless.
2007-02-28 00:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad my ex husband got our divorce finalized...made sure that i didn't get a copy of the decree...and four days after our divorce was finalized he remarried...now he is not wanting to pay child support even though he makes 3 grand a month. I think that you should go for the child support and forget about your ex. You should move on because you sound like a really sweet person...And I am pretty sure there will be a guy out there for you that will want to help you with your baby. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-28 00:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by djsbabygirl2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he does come to his senses...all u can do is wait for that part but i definitely think he should pay child support especially since u guys pretty much planned this baby- it didnt just happen. U are a strong woman so u can get through it i know it seems tough and i have never gone thru the situation personally but u will get thru it with or without him -if its without him make sure to make him pay for leaving u like he did!
2007-02-28 00:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by JAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child's welfare is the most important issue now. Go and get proper legal advice and get the maximum amount you can legally obtain from him. It's his child too and it is his responsibility to support the boy. Don't wait act now and if he gets mad tell him your actions are motivated only to ensure his child has every chance.
2007-02-28 00:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your first concern is your child, you need to do what is right for
you and this child. and dont depend on him to do anything for
'this child if he playing games now. start to get the child support
start. so then if he need to get head together then you and this
child wont be out there.
2007-02-28 00:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely go to court, for your baby sake, and move on, you don't need him, there are lots of men wanting and willing to be a dad ,he isn't
2007-02-28 01:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let the Bastard off the hook this is his way of ******* you and your child out of a life that is due to you! welfare can't be fun..........
2007-02-28 01:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋