I met the woman of my dreams. We dated for 1 year and saved ourselves for each other till marrage. We were married 9 months ago. Heres the problem, On our honeymoon (In Cozumel) We tried to have sex but it was too painful for her. She says my member is too large (11 inches to be exact). She refuses to try it again... Ever! She said its not really important anyway as long as we love one another. So, we have never had sex!! I'm dying here!! C'Mon people, what in the world should I do??
2007-02-27 16:37:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Liar, Liar pants on fire!
Anyway, you try your shoes on before you buy them dont you?
2007-02-27 19:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by Hanks Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all tell her it only hurts the first time, just do it and get it over with. A healthy sexual relationship is absolutely necessary for a healthy, long lasting marriage. Not to mention, does she know that if she doesn't have sex she can never have children?!
If she agrees to it, I would try using small "toys", use those until she gets comfortable with that and then try for a larger size toy until you work up to about your size. If she is not willing to take a couple minutes of pain for the sake of her marriage, maybe you should be reconsidering the marriage. If this is not an option for you, then you should see a doctor or a therapist.
There may be some psychological issues behind this as well. Did she have a healthy childhood? Was she molested at all as a child? Does she have a good relationship with her father? You should have a serious talk with her about this and make sure that it is just the physical pain that she is scared of.
Be supportive until you can both come up with a solution to your problem but you HAVE to do SOMETHING about this before it destroys your relationship.
2007-02-28 00:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this sounds like a guy who is too short to please the wife?
but if you are being truthful don't go in so deep if she is petite
you could be hitting something which is causing her discomfort
try not drilling so deep it may feel okay for you but remember the vagina its sensory tissue only extends about 4.5-5inches past that there is nothing. I will just have to say Haha I may be average but atleast I'm gettin some from my wife!
2007-02-28 03:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor guy... that's terrible. Im not married yet, but soon too be. and were saving ourselves for then as well. my suggestion for u is to just charm her with the whole foreplay thing. it might be torchure for u but it'll make her feel less pressured,and soon enough she will want to go ALL the way.
other then that if you guys love each other that much,tell her how u feel,and tell her that u need some nookie once and awhile!! she will understand. (your a guy! duh!) lol
and under any circumstances, DO NOT cheat! lol you'll never get any that way :P
good luck bud! :)
2007-02-28 00:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Savannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly is to small for you, suggest she go to the obgyn doctor, they may be able to recommend something to help. You may need to get a toy for her to help stretch her out before you try to make love. However, if she is totally against ever having sex again, you may want to find another release for yourself, but I don't think the marriage will last without sex.
2007-02-28 00:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk her into letting you try using your fingers first and then using a lubricant before you actually penetrate her yourself. Be very careful and try not to go too deep or do it too hard. You will have to work with her, but if she loves you she'll try. If you are making this up, shame on you!
2007-02-28 00:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well keep doing the whole foreplay thing...it might be a while but she will want to eventually...And do it a little bit at a time dont use all of it....I promise one day she will want it alll HA! P.S.11 inches you need to remeasure---thats a total lie!!!
2007-02-28 00:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa Kay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So small, never mind it is how you use it that's important. Have you every heard of tongue and fingers. Start out that way and work your self up to more and more
2007-02-28 00:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go in so deep, dummy! How hard is that to figure out?
2007-02-28 00:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh poor you - 11inches yeah right
2007-02-28 00:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋