I don't understand why my gf can ask me to accompany her to go for a foot reflex when Im not even gonna have one!Like am I suppose to watch her quietly at the corner?!Doesnt she think I have better things to do? Seriously,these are the kinda things one can do by herself! I find it really pathetic when one needs company wherever she goes.Another gf ask me to accompany her to go to a facial, another ask me to go to some immigration plc so she can enquire something, another as me to accompany her do major shopping (right when I was broke as hell) etc. I simply dont understand.Personally, I think Im independent.Things as such, I ll do them myself, it speeds things up and its more efficient.I dont like fuss and I dont like whines.Even if their arm hurts, they ll msg me to tell me so and how. What do u mean HOW?!Am I the freaking doc?! Im going nuts.Im not a pushover and not overly nice to them.So I dont understand y they need me all the time.Is it me or them?Are women supposedly like this?
2007-02-27 16:35:07 · 9 answers · asked by Wish 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
People pls, Im a woman myself, not a man. (or maybe Im a man in my previous life??) I dont care if my gfs ask their bfs to do such, but hey I dont understand when they ask me to do as such! What happen to girl power and modern independent women???
2007-02-27 16:56:37 · update #1
Dance_Wi & Fleur, you guys are entitled to your own opinion and I respect that. To shed more light, I dont think Im a mean person, Im just frank but I can honestly say Im a good friend. I dont mind rushing to my gfs' plc at 1am if they face a problem and feeling down but I draw the line and being made an escort. I wouldnt ask them to do things that will inconvenience them so I expect the same. Its about being considerate. Fleur, I asked this qn coz I do need others' opinion however pathetic you think this is, thank you. and FYI, I did say no, along with my reasons to explain but they turn all sulky and moody. Which part dont you understand?
2007-02-27 17:03:15 · update #2
I never had friends that dragged me along to their appointments. I accompanied someone to a doctor's office, to support her.
Your friends seem selfish. I don't see why they don't book a massage or facial for you, since they seem to want your company. They are treating you like part of an entourage and you are right: "Doesn't she think I have better things to do?" Honey, stop going. Say," No, thanks." You feel used and resent this tagging along and waiting.
2007-02-27 16:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound "independent" to me - you quite frankly sound mad as hell, and mean. These people value you enough to ask you to accompany them, and yet you call them "pathetic and dependent." You sound like you're soon going to need all the friends you can get, because with that attitude, the ones you have aren't going to be around for long.
Sure glad you're not MY friend.
2007-02-28 00:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! welcome to my life :-D I've got the same problem. I actually find girls annoying! guys make better friends! they give u less trouble! xD
I guess ur just less girlish then they are, they just tend to need someone der for them all the time. Maybe when they get attached to a guy, they wouldnt be like that towards u anymore. They'll have their bf to bother :-P
Your alot more matured to deal with things on ur own. Thats a good quality cause it dosnt make u dependant on anyone. Just tell them in a nice matter that you arn't available :)
2007-02-28 00:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Shobha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to look for some new friends who aren't such a drain on you. Friendship should be mutual. These gals are users.
2007-02-28 00:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want any female friends, I'm afraid you will have to put up with this.
You can, after all just turn away from them and leave them alone. You will then not have any friends at all. Just ignore them and live your own life.
2007-02-28 00:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm hoping these are all at different times? a lot of women just like to have company. men are the opposite. they like to do things alone. but as far as gettin my feet done i generally like to go that alone or with a girl - friend. if you have more than one girl at a time they're probably testing you cause they know somethin isn't right. and if you got more than one gf at a time stop bein a jerk!
2007-02-28 00:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, lots are. i think many girls/women think that having a guy means having someone to always be with you/fix everything for you, although this isnt always the case.
but then girls are known for going to the bathroom together in groups and stuff, so its just their nature. its like them being nice by inviting you to go with them to all these places.
but no, its not you. its just the type of girls you happened to get at the time.
2007-02-28 00:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's what friends do.
A friend in need is a friend indeed!
And that is you.
Tag,you're that girl.
Isn't it nice to be popular and needed.
2007-02-28 01:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by starrdevine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear, you asking yahoo these silly things is equally funny, or in your terminology, 'pathetic and dependent'. you dont even know when its 'you' and when its not.. learn to say 'no' and everything would suddenly become less 'pathetic'. :)
2007-02-28 00:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by fleur 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋