Do u think it is fair for a man to pay support for a child he did not plan for?

Question

What i mean is that men sholud be given thesame right as women,meaning a man should be allowed to decide if he want a child or not, it is not fair for women to be given all the rights and power to make that kind of decision especially when that decision will affect another persons live . I am a woman and i think the govt. of my country USA should pass a law if a man is not ready to be a dad he should not be held accountable for the child financially.This type of law will be very helpful for the country financially and also there will be less crime. This will make a lot of people think really long and hard if they are ready mentally, financially and or otherwise to be a parent. Just thought i ask

Answer 1

Sadly, the whole child support issue is unbalanced negatively towards men. While both the man and the woman should take responsibility, women really have more control and need to realize their power and position in these situations. Women have multiple forms of birth control available to them while men only have condoms. Additionally, Women know the nature of men is hard wired to pursue sex intensely and therefore should take greater responsibility and initiative in regard to birth control. Most men DO state when they do not want or are not ready for children yet many women still engage in unprotected sex for various reasons ranging from stupidity to the blatant intent to trap a man into paying child support.

Answer 2

If a man is not ready to be a dad he should not screw around unprotected...I understand what u are saying i just disagree. Women are the ones who carry the child and the main care giver- A man can up and leave whenever he feels good and ready and he doesnt have to do anything else regarding the child if he doesnt want to while if a woman needs support she has to find out where the childs father works and wait for the government to force him to take care of the child. Alot of times, also, men want the baby at first and then as soon as the relationship goes wrong with the mother then he doesnt want too much to do with the child. I dont think it will help the country financially as there will be more women on public welfare to help support a child that the father is not willing to

Answer 3

Ok, this is a pretty straight forward answer to a pretty disturbing question. Correct me if I am wrong-you feel it is ok that a man walk away and not pay his child support for a child that he didn't want to have in the first place? HELLO...if he put his thing where we KNOW he did, whether he wanted it or not, he is responsible for that child!!!! There will NEVER be a law that allows this to happen. I don't see how you think this would financially help this country-that would mean more women and children turning to welfare to take care of them, more children home without supervision because mom has to work 3 jobs just to make ends meet, more homeless children because mom can't pay the bills...GET REAL!!! YOU PLAY, YOU PAY. That's the way it is. Ask this question again when you are a single mom not getting any help from the father and see if you still feel the same way.

Answer 4

When a man has sex, he knows a child may be the outcome. That's when he gets to decide whether he wants to go through with it or not. Your law is insane. How would letting fathers off the hook financially help the country? Sounds like a lot more kids and moms on welfare. Men and women both need to be more responsible with their sexuality, so they don't keep getting into situations where the child suffers for the parents' idiocy.

Answer 5

If we did that, there would be TONS of men knowing they could have a child and not be responsible. Men have the ability to think too...they should also consider if THEY are ready to have children. And if the man opts out, where does that leave the children if their mother doesn't have a way to make a living to support them? Men already have the option to give up parental rights. It really sucks growing up without a dad. Not only financially, but if you're a girl, you never get the chance to be a "daddy's girl." And sons don't get to have that father-son bond. It already happens enough here in the good old USA, but I really think we'd be making the problem worse. There are too many dads who skip out on their responsibilities already.

Answer 6

No offense, but I disagree. Men and women who don't want kids should each rather take on their own share of the responsibility for preventing pregnancy. There is not a huge percentage of unplanned pregnancies in which both partners were taking precautions at the time of conception, and even when it does happen, the child still needs to be provided for. It's only right that the father should share the responsibility of supporting a child he helped to create, even if it was unintentional.

Answer 7

Yes i do. It takes two to make a baby and two people are financially responsible. If a man does not want a child he should do everything in his power not to get a woman pregnant. It would be great if men had a birth control pill. That way when they become parents its because they really wanted too.

Answer 8

NO. I don't think what you are saying is right. men have just as many contraceptives available as women do. I believe that if a man is not going to pay support then he should not be having unprotected sex. Who knows the woman may be out to "Trap" him. On the other hand.... If a man is not going to support a child then when the woman meets "Mr. Right" then the man who fathered the child should be willing to sign over custody and make it possible for the "Mr. Right" to adopt the child, thereby relieving himself of the responsibility.

Answer 9

Sorry I disagree. If he didn't take precaution when he hopped into the sack with the girl and didn't give it a care in the world, I don't feel sorry for him and then he should not be given this right to decide whether he wants to support the child he fathered or not. He should be held accountable...these are the choices we make in life. Both people made a decision to have unprotected sex and a child came into this world, and both are responsible.

Answer 10

Well whether he wanted to have a child or not the fact remains he had his pants down as well, and it's a chance you take. Men that don't use preventatives are taking just as big a chance as a women does. As far as I am concerned he made his bed sleep in it.. That's just my opinion. Men and women are both responsible for that child irregardless how is was conceived. As for the new law you suggested. It will never happen. After all the kid/s didn't ask to be borned. Peace