I love her so much, but there is this really, really, I mean REALLY!!! hot bombshell who just moved in two houses down from ours.. Now me and my wife got married just about a year ago, i have been with her since I was 14 and I'm 22 now. Kinda getting tired of the same thing everyday.. But I do love her. I cant stand myself around that girl, shes a BEAUTIFUL woman!! most gorgeous thing I have EVER SEEN! please, men, help me decide? my wife is normal but not totally gorgeous. the beautiful girl always flirts with me and calls me on my cell, but my wife doesnt know. she is so into me, i know it. how can i cheat without getting caught? my wife works a shift from 7 am-6pm... men, what do i do? i think my wife would understand i mean, in every man's life, there is always a time where he will cheat! i have been faithful long enough... men are dogs, we cheat, lol.
2007-02-27 16:11:26 · 74 answers · asked by bobby r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, and all my guy friends tell me to go for it! lol
2007-02-27 16:12:53 · update #1
I think you and "all your guy friends" are PIGS!!!!!!!!!!! If you truly love your wife, then why would you even consider sleeping with some bimbo???? Try making your relationship with your wife a bit more exciting. Buy a book on Kama Sutra and try out some crazy new positions or something. Don't cheat on her though. But if you're still determined to be a slimeball, then the best thing you could do for her and yourself is get a divorce.
2007-02-27 16:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you INSANE?? obviously, if you're asking a question like this!! No, your wife would not understand!! how can you even.....arrrrggghh!!! This is the kind of thing that makes the word "love" look foolish and empty. I don't think you really love your wife. If you are thinking about cheating on her with some "hot bombshell" then you don't have a good sense of love. If you''re tired of the same old thing, then for gods sake do something to spice things up with your wife or get the heck out of the marriage before you screw things up and break her heart.
2007-03-02 13:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe this is a real question. The answer is obviously NO. It's your own fault you got married without experiencing other women first, so live with it. There must have been a reason you decided to spend your lif with the woman you married. Beyond simple moral issues.... having sex with a beautiful woman just for the sex will be forgettable once it's over. But if your wife does find out, which is entirely possible, your marriage could easily be destroyed. Just because men cheat doesn't mean they should. If you think your wife would understand, why don't you ask her permission??
2007-02-27 17:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
few points to note buddy, before u take the plunge.
1. can u live with the guilt?
2. the bombshell will ask for more and one day ur wife will know and then she will leave u after kicking ur silly a--. is it worth all the pain to u and ur wife?
3. what if ur wife does the same to u and locks up with the handsome hunk down the road?
4.no, my dear sir , ur wife won't understand why u broke her beautiful heart and u will finally end up on a psychiatrist's couch as will she. are u ready to do this to her and urself?
5. AND NO ! NOT ALL MEN ARE DOGS. though u might be one. and so ur wife really would be better off without u
i do hope u can now make the right choice as u did 8 yrs ago.
2007-02-27 16:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by mangydog 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should look at your feelings for your wife, if they were feelings of love you wouldn't even think about this. The way you are going you will lose you wife, ruin any relationship the other woman might have, and if she's into foolin around you will only be on the scene until the next guy comes along. If you want to lose everything you have right now then do as your friends say, go for it. Intersting that your phone has messages and all your mates know about it, do you really think your wife won't find out.
2007-02-27 16:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All your guy friends wont end up divorced if you do, but you will. It is NEVER ok to cheat on your wife. How did this girl get your cell number in the first place. Most people would say you are already cheating on your wife by talking to this girl behind her back. You want to cheat on your wife and feel ok about, ask your wife for permission to sleep with this girl. Once you do that you wont have to worry about it anymore because your wife will leave you. You must have thought your wife was beautiful at one time, you married her after all, look for what you found beautiful in your wife and rekindle what you have with her and forget the home wrecker down the street.
2007-02-27 16:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you are using that as an excuse that all men cheat. That is not true it is only the weak ones. If you love your wife how could you possibly even think of hurting her like that. This hot-tie down the street is she really worth it? What kind of person is she. Its wrong to be talking to her on a cell phone and to be flirting with her with intentions of cheating. Keep your brain in your pants and do not do this. Think of your wife. Remember also you always get caught. That's a fact!!!
2007-02-28 02:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you said you love your wife, i believe you. when you said there was a really, really hot bombshell, i think i believe you too! LOL. there is a difference between fantasy and reality. think you should watch high fidelity by john cusack. he made a very good statement there (or rather, nick hornby the writer). anyway, i think you are on the verge of acting out on what you fantasise about, which is a bad thing. you should be incommunicado where this girl is concerned. if positions are switched and your wife has been talking to someone on the phone, how would you feel? i am sure your wife loves you so much... you probably have no idea. she's been with you for so long and is probably proudly counting the years she's been with you. fantasy is attractive when it is unattainable. but, as you go nearer to the goal and reach for it, guilt may consume you and i believe you will write again to this column and ask whether you ought to tell your wife about it (hang on, that woman may call your wife to tell her about it). relationship is crowded when there's a third party. when there's a third party, you do not have total control over the progress of your relation with your wife. your heart may be held to ransom by this girl's emotional blackmail. do not cheat by any means. it's fine to fantasise but totally wrong to cheat this way.
2007-02-27 16:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by counterculturalist 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
of course your guy friends tell you to go for it so they can live vicariously through you if you actually do get to sleep with her. How many of them will be around when your wife finds out and your marriage falls apart? You didn't experience life and sex with different people before you got married. That was your mistake. So dont make your wife suffer for it. I'm sure she's bored too, maybe try swinging??
That chick may be hot, but she's a sad sack for pursuing a married man, it's not you sh'es into, she's stroking her ego by tempting you to stray from your wife. trust me your wife will NOT understand. the fact that you are joking about it at the end means you don't really love your wife, so just divorce her and then you can bone whoever you want.
2007-02-27 16:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get your priorities right gentleman. Are u really in love with your wife or u married here coz she was available. There is no justification that men should cheat. Its a personality thing and used by people who decide not to be faithful and has to qualify their action because thy know its wrong. If it was just okay ith u, u wouldnt be asking. U want your great wife to understand because its not right or do u ever want her to understand why u drink water?
Hope u decide like a real man. A REAL MAN CARES ABOUT THE WELFARE OF HIS FAMILY. All the best especially to your wife.
2007-02-27 16:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by LadyK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋