why would someone marry someone they impregnated over someone they truly love?

Question

my ex-boyfriend still loves me but is marrying someone who is pregnant for him.its his second child. first was with another lady when he was 20.we split up when i found out.he is 29 now. told him i didnt love him anymore, which was a lie. he hooked up with some1 else. i know he still loves me.

Answer 1

Perhaps he believes in family values? this is also one of the problems about having premarital sex: there are no legal limits on how many partners you can have, and many people take advantage of the fact that they aren't "legally" cheating.

Answer 2

WELL OBVIOUSLY YOU EX DOESN'T KNOW WHAT HE'S DOING? IF HE LOVES YOU THEN HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT THAT BEFORE MAKING A CHILD WITH SOMEONE ELSE IRREGARDLESS IF U WERE TOGETHER OR NOT. I f he is going to marry someone else but u know he loves u -why do u care? i understand that u probably still love him too but why want to be with someone who is clearly making the huge dedication to someone else? sometimes that is the problem when a child enters the mix. Some men feel compelled to stay with that person and make it official for the sake of the child.But then again this is also why people don't end up happy together because they are making the commitment based on unjust reasons for everyone in part.Your ex should seriously think about who is involved here and who he really needs to be with to make him happy not for the convenient reasons.He should also think about what loving someone -like yourself really means to him.

Answer 3

You're ex obviously thinks he has a duty to this other woman and now that you've told him you don't love him, why shouldn't he? At least then he'll be with his child. Look. if you truly think he loves you then go and talk to him. He doens't have to marry someone because she's pregnant but you need to understand that if thats what he feels he needs to do then that's his choice and you have to respect it. Don't become the other woman though. If he's going to be with you, then he has to be with you and you alone.

I think you also need to understand that the woman carrying his child is going to be in his life forever. It's not just going to be the two of you, he still has a responsiblity to his kids and will still be in contact with the mothers of his children. If you're prepared to deal with that and possibly help raise two children who are not your own then go for it, tell him how you feel. But if you're not and you haven't thought about what a relationship with him will really mean, then keep your feelings to yourself and move on.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

I read your question. and it seems strange to me that you embrace someone with the love that you want to devote to a person that is undecisive with his feelings and sexual activity. You need someone who is going to compliment you. Sex befor marrage or highly commited courtship and relational history is important to develope for a lasting love that stands up to tuff trials. His road is will be difficult in relationships. Unless he is stepping up to the plate to cover his responsibility of fatherhood. I know it is hard but find a piller not a pendullium. good luck

Answer 5

He feels respondable.But most of the time it will not last.That is no reason to get married.He can still be there for he child.My ex bf did the same thing and his wife knew the whole time he was in love with me its been 24 yrs since then and ive seen him since then and he is still in love with me. would married me today but I cant go there any time soon.Hope everything works out for you.

Answer 6

Responsibility to his child. It probably wont work so hang around and pick him up again when this relationship flops.

Answer 7

He's trying to do the right thing and be there for his kid.