Signs of trusting someone completely
Also how do you get trust back once it has been broken?
2007-02-27 15:48:52 · 11 answers · asked by Tgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The amount of answers you are going to get honey are going to differ greatly. Not everyone views trust the same. Some people get burned and they keep getting burned because they keep extending that trust. To me? Trust is everything. It's the very foundation on which we build our relationships on. If you have no trust, then you are at ground zero...and when you are at ground zero and in the rebuilding process, you first need to ask yourself the hard questions. First, can you accept what happened to break that trust, second...do you have it in you (strength wise) to move past it and last...is this person capable of change. And I don't mean hoping and wishing they could be....are they? Have they had bad habits before that they've gotten over. Have they been accountable for things? Have they admit wrong doing without being caught? There's alot that goes into rebuilding trust honey. And like I said earlier, it all depends on the individual. I was cheated on and my world came crashing down around me. On top of that, we had three children at the time and his plan was to impregnate me with number four as a security measure that I would never leave, had I found out about his affair. Well, I found out alright, and I have an 8yr old reminder of how bad things could be. I lived my life how I wanted to see it. I didn't see it for what it truly was. I thought I had a fairytale life....it was a far cry from reality. I look back now and all the signs were there, I just didn't want to see them. My husband and I are still together, and today we are the best of friends and completely happy. We now have five children, are the best of friends and when someone asks how do I know I can trust him? The answer is easy....this time, I know in my heart. We are far too happy to have either one of us walk away from the life we struggled so long to build. After years of counseling, I look around and I don't see too many people who have the relationship we have. A relationship built on trust.
I wish I had better words of wisdom for you honey, but this is something only you are going to know. It's your hurt, your heart and your life. People usually say "everyone deserves a second chance"...for the longest time, I believed that, it's why I tried. But I've seen many do it, and honey, not everyone deserves that second chance. There are those that are incapable of change. So start asking yourself those tough questions and follow your heart...it rarely steers you in the wrong direction.
2007-02-27 16:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one person in this world that you can trust 100% and that's you. You can never know completely what others think say or do is real or an act. Some people say that with out complete trust there is no relationship, life will tell you otherwise. Just trust them as much as you can and ask questions when you are not sure.
2007-02-27 16:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont know if you can really trust someone or not. My dad says you can trust someone as far as you can see them. trust is something that we have created to feel secure with ourselves and the relationships around us. But you never truly know someone. The one true person that you can trust is yourself. Its hard to get trust back after its broken because you never truly had it, you just hoped that you did.
2007-02-27 15:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by sexycat_1984 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two sure ways to tell it's safe to trust ~
1) Does it have a tail?
2) Does it have 4 legs?
If you can answer yes to both of these questions, you've found the trustworthy ally.
Live well~
2007-02-27 16:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you don't. But over time you will start to see and feel signs if he is cheating. Don't get paranoid but trust your instincts. I don't think you can ever get trust back.
2007-02-27 15:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know you trust someone when you know you can tell them anything and feel comfortable in doing so. I do not think you can fully regain trust. There will always be some distrust.
2007-02-27 15:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you will be more aware of people and the bs that comes out of their mouth now, probably from your previous heart breaking experience. I think you will know when you are ready and you feel you want to giove that next person a chance. You will allow yourself to let them in closer. Its all a risk, just be more cautious.
2007-02-27 15:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust takes a long time to build, and seconds to destroy...I am not sure if it can ever be rebuilt.
2007-02-27 15:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgiving the one that deceived you, and that you are willing to move forward rather than live in the past. The past will obviously depress you. You'll always remember what happened, but it's your choice to move forward and forgive them.
2007-02-27 15:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You dont you just have to try
Once broken it never returns and all relationships after will suffer.
2007-02-27 15:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋