How can I be more socially confident?

Question

I know that people like me, i have good friends but i have avoidant personality disorder, basically its like internal social anxiety, which can be crippling sometimes and not even an issue other times. how can i be more confident, with myself and with other people in social situations

Answer 1

Whether it's true or not, you've gotta imagine that everyone around you is uncomfortable...to the point that they're about to crack. Pretend it's you who are going to ease their pain by helping them not be so scared. Act like, "It's ok. I'm here now. So don't worry anymore. I'm going to help you all through this."

Answer 2

It's easiest to talk to people when you have something in common. It's even easier when you're doing something with people that you both enjoy, like painting or doing volunteer work, walking the dog. When you're face to face at a party -- that's hard. But try sitting on a park bench even. If a stranger comes up, you'll talk about the weather. Everyone loves to talk about that. You'll do fine, and you'll gain a little confidence. A little here, a little there, and you'll become more brave.

I'm not shy and I talk with people all the time, but the thought of walking cold into a party still scares me....it's normal. Everyone has some social anxieties, so don't think it's just you.

Answer 3

It's such a hard thing David!

Two things I always find are - if I look good, I feel good. A new outfit, new hairstyle etc. If you don't know where to start ask a friend or even go to a Salon and ask for help!

and, if I'm quiet and don't interact, I feel lost. If you don't like talking up in front of big groups, then just try talking to one person. Ask them questions about themselves, it will get conversation flowing! Join a club or something if it helps, sport, drama etc. Sometimes it helps to have things in common!

Good luck!

Answer 4

Focus on others. If you try to make others happy or do them some good, you'll be more outgoing. Don't get hung up on "how will they think of me?"... Ask yourself "what can I do to brighten this person's day?" Some folks need to talk.....others may just need a smile.