I don't know what is up with this girl! I mean, it's not as though she treats me *badly*, but I want more from her than just sex. The sex IS great, the best I've ever had, but I want a *relationship*, dammit! I get the feeling she's just using me... like, she'll call me from her friend's, come over and we'll sleep together, and then she'll rush back over to her friends. And she acts like I'm just a dumb cute plaything, like she doesn't really take me seriously. It hurts. For example, I asked her "what are some things you like about me?" and she said "your *** in a thong." Nice response, huh?
The more I think about this, the madder I get. This is my first relationship with another woman since coming out as a lesbian, and I already have feelings for this girl. BUT I don't want to be used. So what do I do?
2007-02-27 15:41:23 · 9 answers · asked by Rissa 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i know as it is the first lesbian relationship you have had that it feels wrong on all different levels and it should as it is obvious she only wants you for sex and nothing else my advice as i am bi-sexual is dump her and move on coz she obviously wants you as just that a play thing and not as a girlfriend in a equal relationship and what i mean is that you obviously love her but she obviously does not love you. I hope this helps
2007-02-27 15:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Shakes my head* Okay Im a lesbian and have been about since I was 13 years old. Now I've been in over 50 relationships since I come out. Lol if this is your first it's just like a male/female relationship if you don't work out then what do you do breakup. Now from what I read this girl is your first close girlfriend right right. Well lets look over the dislikes. Okay you don't like how she uses you for sex which by the way she is doing, you don't like how she wont tell you what she likes about you, and so on and so on. Now this is rather easy tell her you don't like how she's treating you and move on it's just like a normal relationship just because you're a lesbian in a lesbian relationship doesn't make it different you can't let people walk all over you. You gotta stand up for yourself and let her know that you won't have this anymore.
Emily
2007-02-27 23:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can the sex be great if you're not getting your emotional needs met?? sex isn't just about physicality.. (well, it is for some people) ..but you clearly want more than sex, so you gotta dump her and find someone new.. and when you do, don't rush into sex.. make them work for it. make them earn it by showing trust, respect, love, and communication, and most of all a committment to a relationship.
2007-02-28 00:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I'd dump her and get it over with if I were you. The way it seems to me is that its not gonna get much better as time goes and youre probably just going to prolong or intensify the pain its going to cause you by waiting.
But, I dont know you, or the girl in question. Its up to you. I'm just giving my opinion based on what you gave us to work with.
Hope that helps, and good luck to you
2007-02-27 23:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jesus W. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm really sick of people revolving their lives around sex. it annoys me. i think you should say to her if she doesn't take you seriously and stop treating like ur just their to give her sex then you'll leave her and if she doesnt care then honey u deserve a whole lot better
2007-02-27 23:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ambini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is time to move on, Hon.
2007-02-28 05:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Tori M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say move on...she is using you for your ablilities...hey kinda seems like shes acting like almost every male...using people for sex.
sucks huh?
2007-02-27 23:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by Nope 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to be rude or insensitive, but what do you think???
you know the old saying, like it or leave it. i think those are your only two choices here.
2007-02-27 23:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with answer number 1.
if you don't have her respect now, you're not going to get it later.
2007-02-27 23:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by truthbtold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋