Down in the dumps question...?

Question

Lately, I seem to self sabatoge myself in various aspects of my life. It's like I feel like I don't deserve to be happy. I don't take care of myself like I should anymore, don't eat right or sleep right and just put myself and my happiness last. I take care of my toddler really well but I just let myself go. Have you ever felt like this before? Do you have any advice for me? How can I convince myself that I am worthy of happiness?

serious answers only please

thanks for your prayers shelly :)

Answer 1

You are probably exhaused if you are like most mothers of toddlers. Every mother has been there. I commend you for taking such good care of your toddler. That is a full time job and does not leave much time for yourself. You are a person of value because God made and loves you. You are worthy of happiness. As you begin to take care of yourself by eating, sleeping right, etc. then you will not be so depressed. This alone can cause depression. Exercise is a great way to pull yourself out of the dumps. If you can not go to a gym, by all means take long strolls with your toddler. Make this a priority everyday. You will see and feel a difference in how you feel. It will be good for him/her also and most toddlers love to go out in the stroller. Try to get a group of ladies together for a play group or just to talk about similar feelings. If you are not in a church , may I recommend that you visit a Bible believing church . Pray and ask God to direct you - He Will! Being with a special group of people who also have small children and similar problems can really help. Many churches even have Mothers Day Out which would give you a chance to get away a little while. It always helped me to see that other people were having some of the same feelings and problems that I was having. You do have the right to happiness and if you are happy then you will help your child to also be happy. Taking care of yourself is the best thing you can do for your child! You must CHOOSE to make positive changes in your life for yourself and your family. Begin today! Don't put it off! Get up, put on makeup, fix your hair, get dressed and tell yourself that you are special in God's eyes and you do deserve happiness.
God Bless You!!!

Answer 2

I can not tell you if you are worthy of being happy or not. Sounds like you are going through a period of depression. It suck, I know. If I may be so bold. You need to keep yourself up for the sake of the child. Your child will feed off your emotions and feelings. Not to mention the fact that others will look at the two of you as a reflection of each other. Keep your head up and keep going. You will get through this. You may just be in some kind of funk that will pass. Good Luck in whatever you are able to find.

Answer 3

your self esteem is battered from running around after a toddler and all that goes with that.

as said how you are feeling will effect your child so if you cannot convince yourself your are worthwhile (while you work on that issue I mean) do it for your child.

time for yourself is essential and this isn't like at night once everything is done I mean go to yoga classes, take up tai chi or explore any interest you may have, enrol in TAFE (aust), volunteer. there are many things you can do that will help you and hope you are able to get yourself out of this dump.

you may need to see your doctor and take some antidepressants for a short time to aid you.

best wishes for your future peace

Answer 4

See your doctor about getting on some anti depressants. Most types are short term and are not mental illness, just chemical imbalance from exhaustion or not taking care of yourself.

Answer 5

let me tell u girl god is the only one that is going to bring u out of this just like he did me I was married for 14 yrs went threw hell got divorced and I went threw alot but I had my little girl amber and that is all that matter to me her and god brought me out of pure hell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I will pray for u and your child!!!!!!!!