im married for 2 years now, my husband is not interested in sex with me..he usually watches **** and satisfies himself..he never cared for my feelings or desires, but he has always been good to me other than in sex. when i tried to ask him about this..he said there is no reason that he is keeping away but..he does'nt feel like making sex to me. but generally he is a very sexy guy, he watches **** and chats with other girls who put up cam and take off their clothes, as he sees me he closes everything. he is a good guy which kept me with him till date...but even i need some sex now..its hurts like hell when i see him masturbating..looking at those **** or find him chatting with those dirty girls...
i tried to talk to him but of no use, help me..what does this actually mean....he does'nt love me..??
2007-02-27 15:20:23 · 19 answers · asked by swetha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me like he is addicted to **** to the extent that a real person does not turn him on. It could also be that he is so ashamed of his body/manhood that he is embarassed to try to make love to you. The way it sounds to me is you have 3 choices: 1 leave him 2 get yourself a toy to satisfy your sexual needs or 3 find someone who can satisfy your needs and have an affair.
2007-02-27 15:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If u r not satisfied with his answers then u have to distance urself from him till the time he can give u some solid answer. If he loves u but does not want to have sex with the u should either question urself whether r u in a position that u can excite him. Or it is some psychological problem with him and u need some serious help immediately.
2007-02-28 02:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by sweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Shwetha,
In which world are you living? This is 21st Century! Wake up, girl!!
Why would you tolerate someone who is not interested in you and sex. Marriage is for sex and love. I will tell you one thing. Your husband is impotent. He can't get it up. That's why he is satisfying himself with porno stuff. Take him to a doctor. If you want to continue with him, lovingly tell him to see a doctor immediately. If he refuses, then there is no alternative but to divorce him on unconsummated marriage grounds. Legally, you are entitled to every benefit because of your suffering. Take legal action and be brave and true to yourself. You are a human being and deserve to be honored as a human being. Even though he is kind to you, still, in marriage, sex is important. Without that, it cannot be called a marriage, unless you both accept to stay without sex for ever.
2007-02-28 03:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by sunilbernard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! This is really distrubing. I would say he does not respect you at all, and I would also say he has a serious sex/**** addiction and if I were you, I think you should run away as fast as you can. You deserve better than this, you deserve to be loved and respected. He sounds like a very selfish, disturbed man. Good luck.
2007-02-28 00:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby is a perv!
Get yourself a pc of your own. Set up a web cam. Get yourself some beautiful silk and satin panties and bras, teddies, babydolls, camisoles, and a butt load of sex toys. Electric, manual, huge, tiny, beaded, knobby and maybe make friends with a lesbian. Get your sexy self dressed up to get undressed. Start up a web site. Charge for petting the kitty on the web. Kick this hubby to the curb and find yourself someone that will watch you and love every juicy minute of it.
2007-02-27 23:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Dalton K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why are you still there marriage is a great and sex is a big part and if he can understand that then its time to remove the pc and go back talk like you used to like when you first met and you should tell him that you have need and there are not being met so ether the pc go or he go
good luck
2007-02-27 23:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I have to wonder why you've put up with this for two years. Don't you think you're worthy of a better, more loving husband? Do yourself a favor and file for divorce. There are better men out there.
2007-02-27 23:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by bedhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys (Both of you ) need to go to a sex specialist , you have to be considerate & willing & he has to change his habits , well it will take time & surely you guys can make up to each other.
I suggest go to a sex specialist or a mind specialist in India, if u need more infor on this mail me on hotchocredrose@yahoo.com
2007-02-28 05:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by hotchocredrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he does not love u, he does not want u to enter his life. He is selfish and shallow, while u are healthy and good. Because he is your husband, there is some committement, so, try to help him to solve the problem. If he allows u, its worth a try, if he does not allow u, then it is better to leave him.
2007-02-27 23:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should sit with him when he is cool and try to talk to him.he will reply all ur answers.if he love sex and do so by watching someone else then he definitly interested in doing sex with his wife but might be there is certain communication gap.he might be shy to u still or its ur mistake to understand him.
2007-02-28 10:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by usha choudhary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋