A former lover that you don't want to be back with, but yet want to tell the truth to. Not only because you are on respectable terms, but also because it was HIS.
2007-02-27 15:11:31 · 19 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't want him to feel bad though... because it wasn't his fault (or mine either, things happen naturally), I don't see it as a revenge thing, but it is something that actually happened.
2007-02-27 15:22:54 · update #1
We broke up a couple of months ago.
2007-02-27 15:24:42 · update #2
He didn't know I was pregnant when we broke up although he claims to have had a dream that I was after the fact. He didn't desert me. We mutually broke up. If he had left me like that, I wouldn't even be on good terms with him.
2007-02-27 15:33:17 · update #3
That is tough. I chose not to tell my ex about one I had because it didnt end well and I had these feeling that if I told him, he would think I was vying for his attention. So many men (as sad as it is) tend to think you are unstable or looking for them to DO something for you when this type of thing happens. :(
Being that you ended things amicably, I would tell him. You sound like you have a good, mature head on your shoulders and you seem to have respect for him. It will help bring closure to it for YOU, as well - which is extremely important (I have had FIVE miscarriages and not getting closure hurts).
Good Luck with whatever you decide.
2007-02-27 15:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by banderson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the point? If you are not together, chances are, there is a reason for that. I don't really think ex-lovers could truly be just friends, especially if there was a strong past. This is probably something that you would want to share with fiance/husband if yi want to start a family and any problems arise, such as another miscarriage or difficlty conceiving etc. Forget about your ex, move on.
2007-02-27 23:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by katherine_gaviria 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't want him back??? hmm.. I'll bet he's going to think you are an easy target if you tell him you aren't pregnant. Ask yourself if he even deserves the truth. I don't know if he deserted you when he found out you were pregnant but it seems to be what he did. Kick sand in his face and forget him.. He's just going to spread it all over town that you got rid of a baby for him.. No matter what the TRUTH is... Ignoring his skaggy butt is what he needs. If he finds the guts to ask you about it.. I think I'd look innocent and say ... "I don't know what you are talking about, I'm not pregnant". I think you are on respectable terms because he don't want to be 'involved' in any of the baby shower and doctor appointments and having to pay any medical bills.. so he's keeping you at arms length. There's nothing respectable about a man who ignores the mother of his baby. You think it over. Next time don't be so eager to have unprotected sex.. Ya gotta put the brakes on or there will be a booster seat on the horizon. That's my granny advice and I'm sticking to it.. :)
2007-02-27 23:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by ricketyoldbat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what he could do with the information. If you'd had an abortion, it would be a different story. An early miscarriage is comparable to a pregnancy "scare" and hardly worth bringing up unless he asks.
The only other reason to tell him is if it had an emotional effect on you so deep that it bears explaining.
2007-02-27 23:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by sspade30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say the past is history and leave it as such. I'd tell any future's that you've had a miscarriage especially if it's someone you'd like to have children with some day. Do not bother the ex. What he doesn't know won't kill him. If you had-had the baby, the story would have a different ending and you'd morally have to tell him. Bygones girl!! Bygones!
2007-02-27 23:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by momto3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he should know. Not to make him feel bad, but to let him know what you went through. It was a very personal thing that happened between the 2 of you.
2007-02-27 23:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you.
If you think he will share in your grief, it might be beneficial to you. But do you really want to bring that grief into his life? If he didn't know about the pregnancy in the first place, it will only hurt and confuse him to tell him it's over.
2007-02-27 23:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by ihatesunsets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has the right to know ,how long has the break up been if it has been to long 1yr or so i would not bother he got on with his life you should to
2007-02-27 23:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by KJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he has a right to know. It isn't like u want to be back with him u just want him to know. he might appreciate it.
2007-02-27 23:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by army_wife_9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he has a right to know-but why put him through the heartache?
2007-02-27 23:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋