any one please help?

Question

i have been with the same man for 9 yrs we are married and have 3 kids he says all the time he wants me to lose weight and look like i did when we first got togather (i was 15) , But today we was gong to have sex and he said he didnt want to be on top cause he would throw up on me he isnt sick either so what would you do

my husband is over 30 pounds over his best weight im only 5 to maybe 10 so to say i would leave me husband of say he need to lose weight is wrong i did say for better or worse and that is what i ment

Answer 1

HELLO,
WELL I WOULD PROBABLY HIT HIM THEN THROW HIS THINGS OUT ON THE STREET.....BECAUSE HE IS TRYING TO MENTALY ABUSE YOU IN A WAY YOU THINK ITS NOT OR ATLEAST HE THINKS ITS NOT....TELL HIM TO KISS UR AZZ AND HE NEEDS TO EXCEPT YOU FOR WHO YOUR ARE NOT WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE OR WHAT YOU DO FOR HIM....YOUR ARE NOT HIS PERSONAL SEX SLAVE AND I PERSONALY WOULD NOT GIVE HIM THE GOODS TILL HE LEARNED TO RESPECT ME.....BECAUSE HE DON'T DESERVE IT..........I AM SORRY TO BE SO BLUNT BUT ITS THE TRUTH HE PROBAABLY THINKS THAT IF HE DOWNS YOU AND MAKES YOUR SELFESTEEM DOWN THEN YOU WON'T WANNA BE WITH SOME ONE ELSE AND HE WANTS YOU TO FEEL WORTHLESS....THATS JUST HE WAY BUSER THINKS AND HONEY I HAVE BEEN THER AND DONE THAT ....I DO NOT PUT UP WITH IT ANY MORE....ITS NOT WORTH MY HEALTH AND I AM JUST NOW UP TO A SIZE 3 AND WAS A SIZE 16 IN GIRLS DUE TO THE MENTAL ABUSE....SO PLEASE WOMAN TO WOMAN STICK UP FOR YOUR SELF AND ASK HIMWHY IN THE WORLD DID HE MARRY YOU IF HE DIDN'T TRUELY LOVE YOU ARE INSTEAD OF WHAT YOU LOOKED LIKE?????I WOULD AT LEAST BECAUSE IT SAYS THROUGH SICK AND HEALTH AND BETTEER AND POOR TILL DEATH DO US PART...not about what u look like.....

Answer 2

If you think that you are over weight, then you should consider to lose the weight. If the weight you have is dangerous for your health, then again, try to do your best to lose it.

I really think that your husband should have told you differently, but he stated the truth on how he feels. Since your feelings got hurt by the words from the man that you love, you should consider on losing weight, only if you feel that you need to. It is obvious that he got bothered by it when going to have sex, so that should tell you something, if you want to keep having sex to the man you love, then do something about the weight.

I am sure if your husband needed to lose weight, you would tell him something if you know that it is affecting your sex life or if it is harmful to him, you would tell him. So, it does work both ways.

"For better or for worse", but if the person is overweight and is jeopardizing their health and sex life, something should be done.

Answer 3

Obviously he says what he feels and you take it which first of all is wrong you should pull him up straight away and tell him to mind his mouth and manners, you have three children and for some people its hard to lose the weight so quick, I would say to your husband if he's that serious- You do some wight losing with me and i'll lose weight for you, if he says no then say - well looks like I stay like this then unless your willing to do it with me. Find some fun to lose it though like rowing in a canoe as family, go swimming, go out and play tennis or badminton, find something enjoyable together instead of boring it will keep you in good spirits.

Answer 4

Kick his *** then kick him to the curb. What he said was very rude and insensitive and he should be ashamed for saying it.
Stop having sex with him for a few months, see if he feels the same way after he has gone without for awhile. Maybe tell him that if you had a husband who cared you would be more interested in losing weight.

Answer 5

I would do every thing I could to lose weight . Go to the spa, go swimming every day, It is great to lose weight, power water walk .have fun with it, Join the 'Y' use the hot tubs .Do something every day . It will take a lot of time and money his money :) Do this for your self and your health.
And when you are back to your great weight and looking Good ,
Leave his ugly self If that is what you wish .

Answer 6

when a man love indeed a woman,never will even think to discuss if the woman is overweight or not.when the couple getting older (years of marriage),both change.Sex is part of a happy marriage,so,he need to learn how to make you happy;instead to put poor excuses or criticize you.Teach him how to have sex well and good.Good luck.