were arguin that time and my bf told me,,you cost me my life and my career?
2007-02-27 14:51:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well,I found out that he's married after we got engaged for 1 yr.Been with him for 2 yrs.and I just find out last month ofcourse,I want to break up with him but he put the blame on me,telling me I am impatient and have no trust in him.He want me to be more focus and dont mind his wife because she's aware of it but why till now they still together even his wife talked to me that they dont do anything anymore.And when I can't contact him and try to ring her wife phone,just only one ring and I never talk to her,he called me and shout that "stop f*****ng my life.!And he said,whatever happened to him,he doesnt want me to call his wife because his wife hates my guts and his wife will hit him.I asked why,if she's aware of divorce?And he said,she's aware of it but not to call on her face because she's having a hard time to deal about it,aware painfully and he's reaping the painful aspect.I don't understand who's lying?Him or her wife?
2007-02-27 15:21:35 · update #1
It means his life is crap and you are the cause of it.
edit- due to extra info. He is lying. He is scum. Move on from him as fast as you can. That sort of drama and heartache is not how a proper romance is suppose to work. Call both of them one more time and tell them the relationship is over and then change your phone # and the locks on your house. If they want to be miserable, they can do so together.
2007-02-27 14:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has some hidden hurt / pain that he blames on you. I imagine he sincerely believes it. He resents the perceived impact that you have had on his career, and, therefore, his life.
It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or that he doesn't want to be with you. It means he has been hurt by you, and he's probably nursing that hurt all the more since he may feel that you don't even get it.
Or, it could be that he gave up "something" / made some kind of decision against something because he was trying to please you, who he loves.
Mind you, this doesn't necessarily mean that you have done anything wrong. It just means that he feels like you have.
Or, it could be nothing. I don't really know, I'm just giving some thoughts.
2007-02-27 14:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Amish Rebel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say that now he is feeling really guilty for his actions and instead of facing them, and try to figure out what he's going to do , he has taken his anger and fustrations out on you because it was with you he was having the affair, and men don't usually know how to deal with emotions so they come out with everything negative in anger. Also perhaps he was comfortable with the way things were and now everything is in the open, what is he to you, how do you know its not the start of something he'll always do even to you- make a wise decision thats all I can say.
2007-02-27 15:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the guy remains questioning approximately you. he's Married. you are the different woman....if he's prepared to cheat WITH you, how are you able to have confidence him to no longer cheat ON you? as for the seems and the walk by, he's tossing you bait and hoping you will re-start up touch, thereby absolving HIM of any guilt he may well be attempting to avert. the guy is a unethical pig of a unethical piece of dirt and could in basic terms lead you down a primrose course to Hell. forget approximately him.
2016-11-26 19:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by nanhey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is: He's not yet ready to accept responsibility for his decisions, actions, his past or his future; so he puts it all on you because you're the closest one and therefore an easy target for insults, ridicule, etc.
Take a minute and think about whether you're ready to be the butt of his faults and failures. This is not to say, by any means, that you are the blame. . . It's that as of today, he has yet to realize that no one controls him but him & therefore, no one is to blame for the wrongs in his life, but him.
2007-02-27 15:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by 4everFaithful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must have given up alot to be with u. However it was his choice. It wasn't something that u r responsible for. No offense, but he is a fool for giving up something that he obviously cares about so much for a relationship with u.
2007-02-27 14:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by Vince R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means he feels you are to blame for all that has gone wrong in his life and that he actually resents you because you have stopped him pursuing something he loves.
2007-02-27 14:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is pissed and you screwed him over, but I don't know what the context or substance of the conversation is so I truly can not answer this question with out more information.
2007-02-27 14:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by Francis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has failed and instead of taking the blame he wants you to feel guilty. No one should let another stop them from succeeding. Did he have any plans you were'nt aware of?
2007-02-27 14:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by lovinglady72 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU are the reason he lost everything. YOU are the reason his life is so ****** up and YOU are the reason he could not accomplish his career goals and be a millionaire. Get it now?
2007-02-27 14:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋