I am trying to move on and to forget the man that gave up on marrying me, but he is always on my mind.?

Question

I was engaged and ready to marry when the man of my life gave up on me. He is on Navy and he stayed in the Iraq War for one year. 8 months ago he sent me an e-mail informing me that he would not marry me. He said to me that and nothing else. I did my best to help him, to give him strenghts and hope that he would come back at home. I know and I can imagine that he went through a lot there, in Iraq. I did my best to help him. After two months, he contacted my friend Maria and she tried to talk to him and she asked him, if he could call me or talk to me, just to tell me why he was acting that way. He told her that he would not call me or talk to me anymore. We have planned our wedding and we were so happy to have chance to embark in our new life together. I was so happy and grateful GOD for having found the true love of my life. I have been doing my best to forget him, but for some reason,he is still on mind.I have been praying and trying to forget him.Why do I still think of him?

Answer 1

I think it would be difficult for you to forget him because he hasn't given a satisfactory reason as to why he wants to end this relationship. There is no resolution and you cannot move on.

At least if he tells you that he has fallen for someone else or something, it would be much easier. It also doesn't help that he has not spoken with you directly.

I would suggest that you try and approach him. Tell him you have no intention of getting back together but you need to have closure (cliche but i think useful). At least if you speak to him, and hear for yourself how he has changed. Then, you know that the person you onced loved is no longer there and it can be easier, though not any less painful, to move on.

Answer 2

that is a hard one. i ask myself the same thing. my ex whom i am to divorce is still on my mind everyday. my answer is you must truly love him ,like i have a love for my ex that i can never explain. we were together for 6 years and 2 kids later he went back to his other kids mom and had another baby, after all that i still love him and cant move on with the heart, its been almost a year and half and i cry and miss our love. im trying with someone new but the love is just not there its still with my ex. they say time will heal, im waiting. Ive gotten to the point that if god wanted us to be he would let it happen if not now may by later, if not later maybe never but i still love him like no other.. good luck just keep praying for the strength to move on and to fill your heart with the love you deserve it will happen:)

Answer 3

there is a piece to this puzzle that is missing and I think you are leaving it out intentionally. I have one thing that you need to understand, regret. If you did something to this man that would explaint the guilt your feeling, make it right, apologize come clean and do what is right, it will give you back your self respect and dignity, living a lie is painful and can eat you up inside, help yourself aND MAKE PEACE WITH HIM AND YOURSELF!

Answer 4

Well, first off, he was your "true love". He might assume you are cheating on him. He could have depression and pushing what he wants in life away. Could have found and Italian girl or something. It is hard to say. Normally, it is the other way around. I dunno, fill your time up with hobbies and other people.

Answer 5

there is this really cool book called he's just not that into to you. you would find it the relationship section of your local book store. It really helped me move on from the relationships that plagued my mind years after they were over. - good luck

Answer 6

YOU may still be in love with him. I wish u all Gods best.

Answer 7

well, all i can say is....when you find a new love you will soon forget......