2007-02-27 14:23:21 · 10 answers · asked by joseph 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We're not rich, but money has never been a reason for fighting or divorce with my husband. We each respect the other's money and spending habits. But if one of us was a spender, I guess it could be a problem. We have separate accounts, divide the bills and each keep a little spending money that we spend however we want.
2007-02-27 14:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been divorced for much the same thing...for me, it caused major insecurity. The uncertainty of where your next meal is coming from never feels good to anyone. What they do financially effects you. If you don't have the same attitudes about money, you're screwed. I've been divorced now for almost 11 years and I'm STILL recovering from the mess my ex-husband left me with. He has since re-married and doesn't even knowledge his Son much. It's very hard at times.
Money, sex, kids, career choices, where you live, extended family issues, toilet seat up/down...all of those things should be discussed way before tieing the knott. God knows I won't do it again until I meet someone who has the same important things incommon with me. Hoping it will al come in time doesn't work either. They either come with it, or they don't.
2007-02-27 14:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money, bills, debt....these things can equal big stress. Until you learn to effectively budget and manage the money you do have, it's never enough. I remember a time when my husband and I said..."If we could only make X amount per year, we would be set..." and then we make that amount of money, and it still doesn't seem like it's enough. It's ironic that when we are stressed, we lash out at the ones we love the most, but that is how it usually is. Good luck.
2007-02-27 14:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by delanabobana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you don't know where it goes, there's never enough left for what is important, bills get over your head, sometimes bills take over and theres not enough left, because we worry about money too much, life revolves around money, its the only thing to keep us going if theres nothing else, because it gives us pleasure if you don' have it you tiddle your thumbs and get bored so you complain- its a very bad subject that you have to try not to bring up.
2007-02-27 15:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because there is normally a difference of opinion in how the money should (or should not) be spent. This is a tangible way to see a deeper difference of opinions. The argument really is not over money. It is over who decides what, what is more important, and in which direction will the couple go.
2007-02-27 14:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It causes stress. When people are stressed they lash out at one another, which causes hurt feelings. If lack of money continues to be a problem, the fights continue. Until....
2007-02-27 14:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the lack of makes it impossible to pay the bills. Because you can't raise a family with no money.
2007-02-27 14:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Power and control
2007-02-27 14:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by goingmadforit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because unfortunately our lives revolve around either having it , trying to get it, or keeping it.
2007-02-27 14:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not abuse and a cheating lying husband is the reason
2007-02-27 14:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋