my exboyfriend still acts like he wants to be with me what do i do??? help!?

Question

my ex boyfriend still acts like he wants to be with me and we still act like we are together but then when he is around his friends he acts like a ***. he still tells me that he loves me but i just dont know what to do. i have talked to him about it and when we are alone it seems like he cares but once he gets around his friends he just totally blows me off and acts like i dont exist. this was my first love and i dont want to loose him. we have been friends for 5 years and together for 3 1/2. should i keep trying to make things work out of move on??? any advise? please

Answer 1

One of the best bits of wisdom I ever learned about love is that you need to be extremly carful who you love. This situation isn't any different. True love last forever, time just makes it easier to cope with the scars weather it went great or terrible. With that said this guy has gotten quite comfortable with treating you wrong around his friends and chances are thats been a standard theme thru-out the relationship you just haven't choose to see it. If he is to insecure to defend in front of his friends you have a problem on your hands. Espacilly if you have that much history with him. "Move On" isn't really want you should call it, you need distance from the guy he isn't giving you the love and compassion you need and your going to pay a heavy price for that. And as far as staying around and working things out don't expect him to change, it doesn't happen to people by themselves they need other people to do it. So it might really benefit the both of you if you let him know how much this bond you have with him is really hurting you right now and if he isn't going to respect it's exsistence then you need to make him earn the right to love you. Push his happy butt away for awhile and maybe try to just maintain a descent relationship with him while trying to pursue new loves in your life. Keep in mind anyone who can keep relationship going for a few years is ether one hell of good trusting charater or really lonely you need figure out which one and grow from there. Keep in mind he well never be a stranger to you, there well always be feelings for the man shoot you spent 5 years around him but realize that on the way to finding that partner for life your going to make alot of lovers. Of course unless your luckier then the rest of us. Another thing to remeber love isn't just a word it is the sum total of all feelings that you feel for an individual that inspire you to action, its time to question his actions and weather he really loves you.