I asked a question earlier about bn 16 n havn a bf whos 19. I asked if he could go 2 jail if we had sex and it got out. I asked that b/c I thought I was prgnt w/his baby. That's the stupid part. I had sex with him without a condom in the heat of the moment and now I could be paying 4 it w/my future. So if I am pregnant, would he go 2 jail? I don't want an abortion, but he says it is throwing my future away if I keep the baby. Is it possible for me to even be prgnt? I mean, I started my period and only bled for about an hour and filled like 1/2 a tampon. Then it stopped. I read that I could be prgnt if I have a short, late period (which it was). If I am not pregnant, he wants me to go on birth control. Oh yeah we've been havn sex for months. Do I need parental consent to go on birth control? Because I could never ask my parents about that, they would slaughter me. Another thing I needed help with is how to talk to parents if I'm pregnant. I need help. How much does a p. test cost?
2007-02-27 13:58:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Today I woke up and I had an actual period. So I am very grateful and never again will I have sex without a condom. I'm going to talk to my mom about birth control. Thanks to everyone who responded.
2007-02-28 14:09:32 · update #1
Go to planned parenthood. I used to work ther. Its free and no you dont need to tell your parents. They give you free condoms and birthcontrol pills. plus other types of controceptives. If you are pregnant he will not go to jail as long as your parents dont press charges. If you are pregnant, You should talk to your parents like a grown up, they know what sex is. If they love you theyll understand and theyll be able to talk to you. chances are, they already know your having sex but there too afraid to talk to you about it. If your not pregnant, consider yourself lucky. I love kids they are wonderful but that will be the end of you. because once you have a kid, your not important anymore only your baby is so for the rest of your life you will be living for them. obiously your boyfriend doesnt want a baby, so be a grown up and use a condom. I know 16 is crazy but 16 pregnant and single is even worse.
2007-02-27 14:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're in a really tough situation. It's very unfortunate that you feel your parents would 'slaughter' you over this. Of course, it's best that you aren't sexually active, but since you are that is beyond you now. First, a pregnancy test can cost anywhere from 10-30 bucks, depending on where you go and what brand you get. If you have a pregnancy crisis center or planned parenthood in your area, because you're 16, your information would be confidential. I'm not sure what the laws are in your state concerning statuatory rape (that's what it would be called), but the people at the clinic would be able to tell you. They can also help you talk with your parents about it, if you are pregnant. I would like to encourage you to give your parents the benefit of a doubt, concerning this, but I don't know your history. IF they have ever been abusive to you, then I dont want you to get hurt. But if they are good parents, and you're just afraid because you're young, then after the overall shock and anger, they will come to reason with you. Be prepared for them to try to convince you to have an abortion. Are you wanting to keep and raise the child yourself? If you are, you are going to need their help. No matter what your decision is, you will need the love and emotional support of your family. I do hope they are reasonable. I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant. Even though I was an adult, I was still just as frightened as you are. My parents eventually (like a week or two) came to grips with it and became supportive. By the time I was able to know the sex of the baby, they were both excited. Later in life, I accidentally got pregnant again. Only this time I chose abortion. While it was extremely difficult to handle, 10 years later I am glad that I did it. Now I am 32, married with a 13 year old and an 8 year old. Both children are of the same father, so I lucked out there.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 15:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K. I've been there, well, not exactly, I was 17. First off, you need to talk to your parents. Which would you rather do, ask for birth control or tell them your pregnant???? Wish I'd have done the smarter thing. You can go to a crisis pregnancy center and get a free preg. test and they will help you determine what you need to do.
Also, if you are pregnant I applaud you for not wanting an abortion. However, a baby is a HUGE responsibilty. but there are other options. You can put the child up for adoption. I had a friend that did and she got to set all the terms. She picked out the family and still gets to see him, gets pictures, I believe she even helped pick out the name. She is like an Aunt to him. Not all adoptions are that ideal... and it is hard, but think of the gift you'd be giving the child. A mom and dad that would be able to support him/her.
2007-02-27 14:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by two_rose_tattoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you miss your period take a pregnancy test. You can get one at the dollar store or Wal-Mart.
No, you do not need consent to get on birth control. Hopefully, you aren't pregnant now! There are many clinics [Planned Pregnancy being most popular but unfortunately it's not everywhere] that help teens with reproductive advice. Look in the Yellow Pages and you'll find free clinics.
When you find out that you aren't pregnant hold off sexual activity until you get an appointment and birth control. If you can't do that use every kind of birth control you can get over the counter. They have female condoms, male condoms, spermicide, and spermicide stripes for women.
The age of consent may be different in your state but normally it's 16. Yes, there is a possibility that he could get in trouble if your parents decide to press charges. If your parents don't press charges he'll be okay. I hope everything works out and be sure to get on birth control! Best of Luck!
2007-02-27 14:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Yes you could be
2) Yes you can get birth control at Planned Parenthood w/o parental consent and I highly suggest it.
3) Dont have sex w/o a condom...an STD could also ruin your future.
4) A preg. test cost under 10 dollars at your local drug store which I also highly suggest you get.
5) Stop being irresponsible. I am not trying to judge you. I am just telling you from experience that you will regret it later in life.
Think for yourself. Dont let him or anyone else influence you. Get educated on all of this and dont let sex ruin your life. Be smart. You control your life. Really you have no idea how imparitive it is that if you are going to have sex to use a condom. Chances are if you dont get preg. that you will catch an STD. Its not as rare as you may think.
Im not here to judge. But some people are lucky and some are not. Just giving you some helpful advice that I hope you take.
2007-02-28 07:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to jail because you are 16 and he is 19. My boyfriend is 19 and i'm 18 i got pregnant when i was 17 and he was 18 and they didn't take him to jail. My case was a little different from yours, i didn't want the baby because i knew it could cause a rough future and my boyfriend convince me to keep my daughter. but anyway if you want your baby you have to let him know because he was man enough to stick his dick in you to get you pregnant he should of thought of the after effects later. But then again you being pregnant can lead to him breaking up with you and your child can be another child without a daddy. So take the time out and think about what you do before you do it. And the way i told my mother i was pregnant i wrote it in a letter and left for the weekend.
2007-02-27 14:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by priclis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you consented to having sex with him, I doubt he'd go to jail. About being pregnant, you could be. I was 15 when I got pregnant. And I wouldnt abort the child if you are. In my opinion, thats the worse possible thing you could do! It is possible but I would wait to see if you get your next period before jumping to conclusions. And if you go to a planned parenthood, birth control for the most part is free.
Pregnancy tests can range anywhere from about $10 to about $30. The cheaper it is, the less reliable. In my opinion.
It's hard telling you're parents you're pregnant but you'll have to do it eventually if you are. Most will be understanding eventually. They will probably yell and be disappointed but that is to be expected.
Anyway, if you need to talk.. IM me on headoverhillnx3 on AIM.
2007-02-27 23:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No lawyer in the world would prosecute a 19 y/o cause he had sex with a 16 y/o. Even though you are under age it doesn't matter...the guy must be 21 y/o. Every law is different by depending on your state. I'll give you a link that will help...it has the laws for all states. But you have your baby if you want dont let him talk you out of it!
2007-02-27 15:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first part of your question is "I did something really dumb." Doesn't that tell you something. Why would you want to do it again? I am 48 years old and I just can't understand why you young women are making these kinds of decisions that can ruin the life you were meant to live. Please stop right now having sex and enjoy the peace of just being a wonderful 16 year old young woman. You have so many years ahead of you to participate in sex after you are married, and hopefully secure. I don't think your parents would slaughter you but I'm sure they would be hurt, very hurt. My adopted daughter who just turned 18 left her family that loves her so much to move in with her boyfriend and his family. She left behind parents that have done nothing but love her and 5 siblings, a nephew and 2 nieces. I just don't understand.
2007-02-27 14:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a test honey. If your parents decide to press charges on your bf, he could end up in jail. It sounds like you might be pregnant so get tested, they cost $10 to $15. take another one in a week or so just to be on the safe side. About the birth control, im not sure what state you in so i dont know the laws there. Until then dont have sex or use conndoms. Good luck sweetie
2007-02-27 14:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋